Do you undervalue yourself?

“I worked for a menial’s hire,

Only to learn dismayed,

That any wage I had asked of Life,

Life would have willingly paid.”

-Jessie B Rittenhouse


I first read that quote in Napolean Hill’s Think and Grow Rich and everytime I re-read it, I find something new (great quotes do that!).


Have you ever done any of the following?


  • Said YES to a friend’s request for a favor even when you really wanted to say NO but you were too afraid?
  • Said YES to the first offer in a job that know you’re overqualified for but you are too afraid to counter-offer and command what you really know you’re worth?
  • Said YES to a lover or spouse and done something (or accepted some kind of behavior) that made you feel less than or frustrated afterwards?


If you say YES to any of those, chances are you are undervaluing yourself in some area of your life. (By the way, you’re not alone in this camp. The reason I wrote those examples is because I’ve said YES to all three in the past and I know how soul-sucking it can be!)


As it relates to your most important relationships, are there places where you see your energy being leaked simply because it’s too scary to rock the boat?


You’ll notice a common theme in all those 3 questions above: FEAR.


Fear of not being liked.


Fear of losing something or someone (sometimes before you even have it!)


Fear of confrontation and not being loved for who you are.


But I don’t want to focus on fear. You are a highly conscious, intuitive being (I love you!) and it’s so easy for us to focus on releasing fears, over-processing and putting energy into how to fix something when my opinion is this:


What if….


What if there was nothing for you to fix?


What if instead you chose to put your focus on ACCEPTANCE and truly loving yourself?


What if you felt afraid and did it anyway?


What’s the worst thing that could be possibly happen?


If we go back to the quote at the top, “…any wage I had asked of Life,

Life would have willingly paid.”  I have to ask you the scary question:


What kind of WAGE do you WANT?


And when you think about your most precious relationships, WAGE = The qualities of how you intend to be treated and treat others.


Example: Respected, harmonious communication, powerful, sexy…you get it, right?


See, most people want the Universe to give them a big ole HANDOUT because they are too lazy to take personal responsibility for their failure to say what it is that they WANT in the first place!


The ones like you reading this know better. If you know what you want and you ASK for it, you’re 100000X more likely to actually get it than the person who says, “I don’t know. You decide Universe. Whatever. (But if I don’t like it, I’ll blame you!)


(You can tell this subject gets me riled up!)


Take Action: Your Turn!


So, I’m curious.


1) What is YOUR desired relationship wage?


2) If you’re brave, post your top 3 adjectives that describe how you intend to be treated/treat others using the leave a comment at the bottom of this post.


3) I love you (that’s not an action, but I just wanted to remind you of that!)



If you want to DRAMATICALLY increase your chances of being respected, heard and have relationships with the people in your life that people will envy, I’d LOVE to have you in my brand-new class “What’s My Spirit Realm: How to Rock Your Relationships and Become a Master Communicator!” starting next week!


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Have a fabulous rest of your week/start to SPRING and I look forward to reading your “Relationship Wage” adjectives!


Love and Blessings,




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