Dear Goddess,

Have you ever felt like someone—maybe a partner, friend, or colleague—keeps putting you last on their list?

You start to wonder, “Why do I always end up being the one who cares more?”

Recently, a client shared something that I know will resonate with you:

“He always texts me last minute to get together.
When I share something meaningful, he changes the subject or doesn’t reply.
I feel like I’m never the priority — not with him, and honestly, not even with my friends anymore.”

If you’ve been there too, here’s the truth:
If you’re not feeling like a priority in your relationships, it’s time to look at how you are prioritizing

Step 1: Look at Your Schedule — Not His Texts
One of the first things I have my coaching clients do is write out their daily and weekly schedule.

Why? Because your calendar doesn’t lie. It shows where your energy goes—and where you’re unconsciously giving it away.

Ask yourself:

• Do my mornings start with me, or with everyone else’s needs?
• Am I reacting to messages, requests, or work before I even take a breath?

Even those “innocent” habits—checking texts before breakfast, skipping meditation to help a friend—train your nervous system to react, not receive.

And when your energy is scattered, it becomes harder for others to see and feel your value.

Step 2: Notice Where You’ve Become “the Responder”

Many intuitive, heart-centered women fall into this pattern.

You skip your workout because someone needs you.
You take that last-minute call even though you’re exhausted.
You say “sure” when your body is screaming “no.”

Each small moment sends an energetic message:

“My time is flexible. My needs can wait.”

But here’s the truth: when you treat your time and energy as negotiable, so will everyone else.

Step 3: Reclaim Your Queen Energy

You don’t need to overhaul your life—start small.
When you make one intentional choice that honors your energy, you remind the Universe (and everyone around you) that you are the priority.

Here are some simple ways to start:
– Keep your phone off until after breakfast.
– Set your top three priorities each night before bed.
-Wake up 30 minutes earlier for meditation, journaling, or movement.
-Check messages at set times instead of all day.
-Commit to one non-negotiable self-care practice weekly.
– Prep your food or outfit the night before—less chaos, more flow.

Every one of these actions whispers: “I matter.”
And when that energy becomes your baseline, people begin to treat you differently—because they can feel the difference.

Ask Yourself

Q: What’s one small shift I can make this week to show myself that I’m the priority?

It could be as simple as turning off notifications during lunch or scheduling quiet time at the start of your day.
When you make yourself the anchor, everything around you rearranges to match that energy.

In Closing Remember, Goddess: You teach others how to treat you by the way you treat yourself.

When you consistently honor your time, your needs, and your energy, the people in your life start showing up with the same level of care and respect.

And that’s when you stop chasing and start receiving, naturally.

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