3 tips to help you manage your emotions when you’re doing something that scares you

Have you felt called to do something that scares you this year?

Maybe it’s to start dating again.

Or to end a dead-end relationship.

Or to be brave and say what you really need.

Anytime we embark on a new journey, or make a different choice other than the one that feels safe and comfortable, shit is going to get kicked up.

It just comes with the territory.

But you don’t have to let it stop you.

Here is my go-to list of 3 things you can do to manage the emotions that arise when you’re about to do something that scares you.

1) Breathe…from your belly.

Yes, that sounds very simple but when we come from fear, we are usually breathing very shallow from our chest and we make poor decisions.

It takes just a minute to get conscious, slow down and imagine you are blowing up a really tough balloon. Place your hands on your tummy as it expands and slowly exhale. Repeat 3X. 

2) Heart ‘Tapping’ 

Take your index and middle finger and lightly tap the soft spot near your breastbone.

Say anything you’re feeling or thinking unfiltered as you do so.

Ex: “I feel really f—-in scared, what if I mess up,” (all while gently tapping that point).

Get it all out there and when you feel complete say, “Even though I feel all of that, I still deeply and completely love and accept myself.” Release the tapping. Notice how awesome you feel. 

3) Affirm: “I’m growing and that’s a great thing.”
Anytime we feel nervous, giddy, weird but we know we are taking an important step towards something that’s going to move us forward, having an affirmation to say or to see can calm your mind. It reminds you that it’s a normal part of the process, instead of an excuse to stop. 

The more you can use these 3 tips when you’re feeling scared, the easier it will be to keep going, surprise and delight yourself!

Q: Which one of these 3 tips will you implement this week in your life?

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I had to kick him out….

Happy Wed!

Have you ever gotten to the end of your day and just have a headache that won’t go away?

Maybe you try poppin some Advil, meditating or even showering, but you can’t quite escape the feeling like you may have absorbed other people’s energy.

If you’re an empath like many of my clients, having simple, easy things you can do to kick out other people’s energy is key to staying sane.

Today’s intuitive exercise is called The School Bus 🙂

After doing it, people have shared with me that they feel lighter, more clear and more grounded.

It’s from that space that we show up the best for the people we love and are more likely to spot red flags in new relationships…because we are in our own vibes, yo!

Go here to check it out and give it a go.

After you watch, leave a comment on the blog to let me know how it went for you!

I was so afraid of being hurt again…

Opening your heart again after being betrayed or hurt can feel really scary.

There is this transformative energy in the air, especially with this past weekend’s Harvest Moon/lunar eclipse.

Can you feel it?

There is tremendous opportunity right now to let go of the heavy shackles that have kept you stuck from the past.

A time when karmic debts can be paid.

And a lightness into the new is inevitable.

But sometimes we can get in our own way from allowing these opportunities in.

I was speaking with a woman awhile back who shared how uncomfortable it felt to even think about opening up to a new relationship.

Even though she really was yearning for a life partner.

For the sake of privacy, let’s call her *Ann.

Ann had been taken advantage of several times before and she felt this push-pull between wanting to leap into the dating scene again after years…and just focusing on her career and not bothering.

When she asked my advice on what she could do to open her heart if she entertained the first option, here’s what I shared…

What to believe to open your heart…

It boils down to this: know + believe that you are safe.

When we don’t feel safe, we hide ourselves.

We give from a protective, limited space that says, “I don’t want to give too much in case you try to take too much or hurt me.”

It is based in a scarcity, not-enough energy and it repels the very thing you seek: love.

What can you do if you realize you’ve been operating from this space?

It basically comes down to reminding our inner Child that the grown up Goddess within you is in charge.

It’s not that you never feel afraid.

It’s that your belief that you are accepted and safe even with those fears is stronger.

In that space, when you’ve been reassuring your inner Child that you are enough.

That there is always enough of anything to go around.

That it is safe to give and receive love, and that you’ll know quickly if there’s someone that isn’t helpful to engage in relationships with.

Magic opens.

When we don’t take care of the inner kid in us, that’s when it’s easy to sabotage.

To think the Universe is not on your side, and that you have to keep your guard up all the time.

To go out with inappropriate partners.

To close yourself off from opportunities to meet new people.

To over-indulge in distractions like TV, overeating or toxic thoughts that keep you from taking action you know you need to take.

It all starts with a decision: 1) Are you willing to reassure your inner child that you will take care of it? 2) Are you willing to open your heart, even when you don’t “do it perfectly?”

If so, say YES in the comments!

ps: If you are ready to release layers of energetic blockages so that you can learn how to love yourself, open your heart and call in a soul mate partner in 2020, I would love to work with you! I’ve helped hundreds of folks to let go of their blocks and increase their self-confidence and feminine attraction energy! Next step:Go here to book a time to connect with me for a 15-min intro consultation.

hmmm..what would you do in this situation?

Happy Wed!

Today is Q+A, where I take your questions and share insights to help our entire community.

Today’s question: “The guy that just recently broke up with me wants to meet up with me. He made a point to let me know it would be “just as friends,” which is really confusing because I still love him. If he’s truly over me, why does he even want to meet? I’m torn-what should I do?”

Ah, the mixed message dilemma.

This is a valid question-when someone you still love shares that they want to meet up in person, especially if it’s a recent breakup, it can feel like a dance between false hope (maybe they’ll change their mind and realize how awesome you are) and Ego revenge (how dare he even think I would consider going!)

But it’s not so black and white with matters of the heart.

Here’s my suggestion

What would you suggest? Leave a comment!

ps: Totally last minute but tonight at 7pm Pacific, I am hosting a free group coaching call with my friend Lee Cholodenko for MEN. If you know anyone who could benefit, check out the free training we did here that also has a link to sign up for the free coaching call: www.dianadorell.com/formen

your jan 2020 message inside + a gift!

Happy New Year, Decade, January!

Holy cannoli-if you’re ready for a breakthrough, banner year, 2020 is your time.

It is such an honor to be in your inbox-and my intent is to provide high octane, top-notch quality content this year to help you transform your relationships, starting with the one you have with the Goddess in the mirror 🙂

If you’re new to my world, welcome!

Every first week of the month, I love to share a monthly Goddess oracle card forecast!

How it works: 

I pull a card for each day of the week and I highly recommend you grab a sheet of paper and pen to pause the video on each card, asking, “What could this card mean for me?”

If you’ve been in my community for awhile, you know I always encourage you to trust your intuition and develop that muscle to tap into your own Truth.

In this video, you’ll learn:

the overall theme of 2020 and a week by week intuitive nudge

what the big deal is about January 12

how you can plan ahead and create empowered relationships, no matter what the energetic ‘weather.’

Watch it here:

ps: Happy New Decade gift: Many of my private clients and friends consider themselves to be empaths, or those who have a heightened sensitivity and gift for feeling other people’s emotions, among other things. Is this you too?

If you are an empath, you tend to attract ‘takers’ in relationships and that’s the last thing I want for you in this brilliant new energy! Learning how to manage this gift is crucial so…

I created a free list for you! It’s called, the ’21 Best Practices for Empaths.’

Download it for free right here

Here’s to new beginnings!