“I have to be in my Feminine to attract love right, Diana? So, why do I have to get specific?”
First off, you don’t *have to* be in any energy, but if you want to attract a primarily Masculine energy centred man, being in your authentic Feminine creates polarity, that sexual and energetic ‘tension’ that creates a romantic dynamic.
Having said that, being in your feminine energy is never about being passive!
It truly drives me bananas when I overhear women encouraging each other to just “sit and wait” and not do anything at all to signal the Universe of their desires to be in partnership.
It’s a super delicate dance but here is one powerful thing you can certainly *do* while being in your Feminine energy that will actually help you attract romance without slipping into passivity…or over-giving.
- give yourself a weekly goal or intention. Notice I said give yourself (not the guy/girl). For example: Even though it felt weird at first, I asked one of my clients how many dates she would like to goon in the next week and she said “3” so she declared, wrote it down and even cleared out space in her week when she would be able to accommodate invitations. Within the next hour, a guy messaged her on Hinge and asked her out. They are going out this weekend. She was shocked. I was not. That is the power of declaring, being clear and creating space.
Let’s break that down.
Step 1: She had to get clear.
How many dates? If she had been wishy-washy or passive like –I don’t know- however many the Universe wants to send me??? you can just feel the energy, right? Even writing it is like taking a super lukewarm bath-it’s not sexy and it’s not magnetising. IN order to get clear, she had to do gut check and/or body check-yes, maybe her head said she wanted 5 dates, but when she checked in with her body, she realized she only had energy available for 3. Take the time to slow down and get clear.
Step 2: She wrote it down and made space in her schedule.
She actively participated in the creation of her desire. If she ha said 3 dates but refused to block off or identify time when she could actually meet those men, she may have still called in those dates, but she could have been unnecessarily stressed or felt like she was overbooking or compromising in another area. Q: What needs to be cleared or sifted so you can actually receive what you’re for?
Step 3: She stayed open to how and when.
Sure, the intention was for the week, but she let go and trusted that she would receive feedback from the Universe via people at the perfect time. And she did! She wasn’t trying to control when it happened or how it happened. So she was a safe receiving space for it to come to her!
The more you can actively practice these 3 baby steps, the easier it will be to stay constantly in your Feminine, without slipping into passivity and wondering why nothing it happening!
Q: Which of these 3 steps do you need to practice? Hit reply or leave me a comment on the blow and let me know!
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Happy Aries Full Moon week!
The airwaves are powerful.
Communications can be fiery, direct and full of passion.
You may find you get a burst of energy from out of nowhere…or feel like you want to punch a wall.
It’s a great week to shore up your inner courage, channel your bold, bad-ass alter ego, and behave in ways that make you feel proud and may even shock you.
Today, I am answering a dating question about mixed signals:
“Diana, I’ve bee on 4 dates with this guy. All was going well (I thought) and we even talked casually about the next date. It’s been over a week and I don’t know where it’s going. I’ve been texting him and he does respond to me – and they are sweet, but he has yet to book the next date or initiate a text or conversation. I’m trying to stay in my ‘feminine’ but I feel so frustrated. What am I missing?”
A: Ah, yes the mystery of the great post-4th date. Often times in the first few dates, men (and women) are on their best behaviour and are often presenting their best sides. But by the4th or 5th dates, generally speaking, true colours may start to emerge and people’s natural way of being becomes more apparent.
So, in the spirit of being bold and direct with the Aries Full Moon, it boils down to the old adage “Actions speak louder than words.” Yup-if you have not received a message from this man and he’s not trying to book the next date and nail dow a time with you, he’s either a). primarily a feminine-energy centred man (in which case, he will happily respond to your texts ad initiated conversations and invitations) or b). it’s simply not a priority for him.
If you are a feminine-energy centred woman naturally, then it may feel a bit weird to always be initiating conversation. If imitating feels easy and natural and you are more comfortable in your masculine energy, then you can be cold and ask this guy out to the farmers market! But if not…then giving him space t have to make a move is key. And if he doesn’t…well, then take that as a clear sign through in-action that the is not interested and move on goddess!
Q: Have you had an experience where the communication/attention wanes after the first few dates? What happened and how did you navigate that? Share with us below!
Happy Tuesday and new month!
I don’t know about you but as soon as I turned the page on the calendar, I let out an audible sigh…of gratitude.
There’s something about the turning of the calendar, the turning of seasons that just feels like we all get a big, giant do-over.
A fresh start.
Energetically and emotionally.
Maybe some things didn’t pan out the way you expected in September.
Can you be gentle with yourself and let it go?
And other things came into your life that you didn’t expect but that were marvellous!
Can you celebrate that and stay open to experience more of that trust that you deserve amazing things?
The word for October is connection.
Connecting to what you value.
Watch the October Oracle message below and check out the new painting I’m playing with in the Goddess space!
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