are they ready or are you wasting your time?

Today’s Q+A is about marriage/commitment.

Q: I’ve been burned a lot in the past by men who couldn’t commit. I feel cautious dating again and am wondering, are there signs I should look for that the person I’m seeing is open for marriage?

A: Oooo, I love this question. It can feel really scary to put yourself out there only to discover that the person you’re interested in isn’t on the same page-in this case, around commitment.

There are 3 common dating behaviors I see in my private practice. 

One of them is a sign you can tell before you are monogomous.

The other two are for when you’ve been with the person awhile and want to know if you’re on track for the M-word 🙂

Check out the full answer below in this video:

Q: Have another sign you’d like to add? Share in a comment below!

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i am open to receiving support

Last week, I led an in-person Goddess Circle in Arizona and it blew my mind.

I learned what it means to truly trust that it’s safe to ask for help and that it didn’t mean I was any less of a leader because I needed assistance.

Long story short, my back totally went out, like the day before I was scheduled to teach.

And ironically, the name of the class was “Aligning with your Divine Purpose!”

Seriously, the Universe has a sense of humor.

I was hunched over at a 90 degree angle like an old lady totally misaligned and I didn’t know how I would make it there but I just knew in my belly, I had to show up, regardless of the state I was in physically.

I said a hurried prayer and just said to myself, “I’m going to be open to receiving support. It will be okay.”

And I kid you not, once I fully, fully, FULLY surrendered it all, I was at a stop light about 10 min away from the event space.

1) I get a text: “Hey, I got here early (my friend who signed up). Want me to give you Reiki before you go on? I can also help with the chairs.”

I’m open to receiving support.

2) I walk into the space and within 5 minutes, another two Goddesses show up early. One of them offers me half her gourmet sandwich (she thought I might be hungry) and offered to help put out the altar and the chocolates and grapes I brought.

I’m open to receiving support.

I didn’t try to “be strong.” I openly shared with everyone that I was uncomfortable but that I was so excited to be there because teaching and sharing IS my Divine Purpose.

And as the night went on, I felt such a softening in our group-sharing was happening, Truths were being told and ideas were being explored in a safe container. 

I realized, when you aren’t trying to be invincible, you just get to BE.

And that is a much more aligned place to come from as a leader and in the Highest Goddess version of yourself.

I felt a weight release near my sacrum and to my amazement, by the end of the evening, I was able to straighten up more than I had in the past 2 days!
3) After the event, I received another invite to have energy work done on my back and the energy was buzzing with love and sparkly energy that comes when there is Flow.

I’m open to receiving support.

I realize how much we try to do this thing called Life believing that we aren’t worthy of support.

And how liberating it is to finally drop that.

I’m so grateful for this experience and I invite you to reflect on where in your life you have been trying to pretend you don’t need help?

Where could assistance support your Path?

Have an amazing week!

onward + up oct! you ready?

Happy October!

Lordy, lawdy! Where has 2019 gone?

I think I may have said that in last week’s newsletter but my head is seriously mystified at how fast this year is flying. 🙂

So…what does October hold?

If you’re new here, welcome! Every first week of the month, I share a Monthly Goddess Guidance Oracle video and pull some cards to interpret to give you an overview of the entire month.

Grab a sheet of paper and pen, and head over to watch it as I always recommend you pause the video after each card to jot down your own insights!


i have a weird issue (Q+A time!)

It’s Q+A week, where I take questions that come up in our fabulous community.

Do you have a question you’d like me to answer on a future blog? Go here to share it!

Today’s is about self-sabotage…and too many dates.

Q: Diana, I have a weird issue. I have more than 4 dates booked this week and I know I should feel really excited but all I want to do is have some alone time with myself. I’ve been saying I want more dates and now I have them and I feel like I’m sabotaging. What should I do? 

Even if you are not currently dating, this applies to all commitments you are making to yourself and others, so check out the advice in this week’s video! 

Prefer to read? I also include my written answer below

A: This is not a weird issue-thank you for asking and sharing this!

First off, just want to acknowledge you for creating what you said you wanted-4 dates in a week is amazing! And I also hear a lot of self-judgement-whenever we use the word “should” that’s a cue to look at-what could be happening and what can easily happen when we get flooded with awesome invitations, but we haven’t made self-care a priority is this low-level feeling of resentment, which may be what you are experiencing. It’s less about the guys you’re booking dates with and more highlighting that you need to carve out alone/recharge time before you agree to dates. We only have a finite amount of energy in any given day or week, so making sure you are filling your own energetic bucket first is key! My recommendation is to look at your calendar and block off 1-2 days or even half days that are just for you. I call these Flow Days but basically that is your sacred time. No dates or other appointments get scheduled during those times unless you have the energy and want to. This will protect your energy, fill up your tank and make it much easier to say yes to those awesome dates!

Much love,

ps: Struggling with self-sabotage and ready to break the pattern once and for all?
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wait ’till the pan is hot…

Happy Wednesday!

Did you feel anything coming off the heels of the Pisces Full Moon last Friday/weekend? 

Full Moons are times of illumination and insight- where do you want to go? What needs to be eliminated or invited into your life?

Often times, we finally see the clouds part and get some clarity around what we want, and then are in such a damn hurry to get there.

Case in point: The other day, I was making myself pancakes (I loooove Kodak cakes, but I digress…). 

And I remember having an ex tell me that I had to wait until the pan was actually hot before pouring the batter on the skillet.

Ever since I can remember, I’ve just been so darn eager to get that first pancake out there that I sometimes even forget to turn on the stove!

And it got me thinking- relationships are kind of like that.

When we rush to “get him/her to like us” “snag a date” or “get the proposal, etc” before the proverbial pan is hot, good and ready, it can leave you feeling like I was waiting for that perfect pancake to cook …ASAP.

Confused. (Did I turn it on? Is the stove even working?! Piece of crap.)

Annoyed. (My stomach is rumbling-maybe I should have just bought those really crappy pre-made microwavable ones. They are good enough…not really.)

Frustrated. (Maybe I’m not supposed to have pancakes…cue dramatic music as I pretend I actually prefer a grapefruit and toast…not.)

I just had to wait until the stove was hot.

And chill out while I waited.

Instead of worrying or obsessing about why it was taking so long, I could have listened to Lewis Howes “School of Greatness” podcast. 


Heck, maybe even snuck in a plank or two.

So..yea, that’s your message this week.

Q: Where in your life do you feel in a hurry? Will you do us both (and the Universe) a favor and experiment with waiting until the pan is hot before freaking out?

Want what you want.

Take inspired actions as shown.

And then chill the F–out, ok?

My stomach really is rumbling as I type this sentence, so I’ll sign off for now.

Have an amazing week!

ps: Are you wanting some extra support to break through old patterns that you know are not helping you call in that amazing relationship? 

A big part of self care is loving yourself enough to stop going at it alone.

This is HUGE and if you are ready to get the ball rolling and explore, let’s hop on a consult call (complimentary and no strings attached) so I can learn more about you, what you want to create and how I can help. Go here