Are You Ready for Some New Energy this October? Me Too!
Happy Tuesday!
And welcome to a brand-new month of possibilities, magic and opportunity, especially in relationships.
It’s Libra season which is the sign of balance and love!
Where do you need to come back into balance with yourself?
Where can you find the middle ground with someone or something that’s been bugging you?
Where do you need to just accept and move on with grace?
So many questions to ponder and with Mercury Retrograde until October 18th, it’s the perfect time to contemplate your next steps, who you want to be in this last quarter of the year and what’s really important to you.
I’m really excited to share this month’s Goddess Guidance Oracle message!
I actually recorded it for you while taking. much needed break at a resort here in AZ.
Yes, that’s right-ducked out of the swimming pool and found a beautiful spot to pull cards and share the wisdom that was coming through about October.
Watch it now below and happy October!
ps: If you want to raise your confidence, I’m going to be teaching a brand-new course later this month called Energize Your Confidence Space! Stay tuned and big heart hugs and love to you.
It’s Go Time
Maybe it’s the end of the month vibes, but I’m all fired up today as I write this to you.
It’s go time.
At some point, you just have to decide.
Decide you’re available for more.
Decide that you’re done tolerating XYZ once and for all.
Decide that you are worthy. You are smart enough. You are deserving of a beautiful, fulfilling and nourishing life and relationship.
Do you hear me?
No one else is going to decide that for you.
Sure, your friends may tell you how great you are.
You may like Instagram memes that tell you you are fabulous.
But if you don’t decide… like really really decide way deep down to only to be available for what it is you keep saying you want.
Well… I’m calling your bluff.
It will fall flat.
You are just spinning your wheels.
It sounds good.
You’re ‘making progress’.
But you could just skip all that BS and decide.
So I ask you, the brave ones reading this…
When it comes to love:
Q: What are you available for?
Q: What are you not available for?
Q: What are you deciding right now?
Hit reply and tell me.
Leave a comment.
Declare it Goddess!
Sermon over.
Feel free to roam the cabins.
How to Put Yourself Together After a Breakup
Happy Tuesday!
Today, I’m taking your questions from the community.
And we are talking about… breakups.
Q: “Diana, I’ve just broken up with a man I thought I was going to marry. I feel so confused and lost and I just need to get myself together. but I don’t even know where to start. I Don’t want to burden my girlfriends as they are probably tired of hearing my sob stories. Help!”
A: Thank you for writing!
Breakups can be so painful and get us to question our very existence, worth and lovability.
But they don’t have to break you. Here are three things you can do as you move through this difficult time.
1. Stop expecting everyday to be the same. Embrace your emotional cycles.
So often we think, okay, I’ve purged them from my phone. I’ve put myself back on the dating apps. I’ve thrown out all the gifts they gave. I am having a great day and I’m over it… and then the next day you feel triggered by something and then start beating yourself up. Stop. A breakup is a death, it’s a transition and the more you can embrace your emotions and stop expecting them to be the same day to day, the easier it will be to ride the wave to the other side.
2. Make a list of all the things that annoyed you in the relationship. Keep it somewhere you can see it often.
Quirks. Things maybe you couldn’t do because they didn’t like it, etc. After the initial shock of the breakup wears off, whether you are the one who initiated or not, it’s easy to go into idealising the other person’s best traits and to only think about the good times and benefits. But this keeps you stuck. When you put the relationship on a pedestal, that hyper focus can make it much easier to keep playing out everything Iver and over again and driving you crazy. When you’re feeling weak, read your list or better yet, record and audio on your phone of you reciting the list and play it often! It will help you stay present.
3. Connect with your body.
Taking care of yourself can feel challenging when you are in the throes of. a breakup. But committing to listening to your body and paying attention to it is so important for your healing. Take a walk. Dance. Give yourself a soothing foot rub before bed. Breathe deeply and create some white space in your day to just be. If the thought seems unnerving, ask it, “Body, what would you like to share with me?” And then free write for a page and see what comes out! It may seem silly but body truth can help you uncover your feelings, release stuck emotions and thoughts and keep things moving forward, even when your heart is hurting.
Going through a break up is not easy. But by taking the steps above, you can move through the transition with greater ease and grace!
Q: What has helped you move through a break up? Share with us in the comments!