what to do when your life starts falling apart
Have you ever seen the movie, Bridget Jones’ Diary?
There’s a great line in there that goes something like this:
“Why is it that when one part of your life starts going brilliantly, another part always seems to fall spectacularly apart”
In the movie, she’s referring to being in a fun, exciting new relationship while her relationship with her mother starts to unravel. Fast.
Have you ever experienced that?
It can feel like the Universe is plotting against you but here’s what you must keep in mind…
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What to do when your life seems to be falling apart:
There are all these fancy phrases to describe this phenomenon, but to make it fun, let’s call it the “meltdown.”
Basically it’s when you dramatically up-level one area in your life that has been a thorn in your side ….and your subconscious freaks out.
It is feeling unsafe, unsteady and in new territory and all those pesky little beliefs that go contrary to your new reality decide to make an appearance.
All with the sole purpose of helping you feel comfortable. Safe. Status quo.
You’ve been going on dates, despite feeling scared.
You agree to a second date, things are going amazingly well…
Your car craps out, you lose your job and your date ghosts you. All in the same week.
You may think, “Does the Universe have my back?”
It can feel like the Universe is playing this nasty trick on you.
And it’s so easy to go into victim-mode, curl up in a ball and think the whole world is against you.
It’s easy to just stop trying for what you want and justify that you really like where you are..really….it’s not so bad, right? Lie!
But the thing is, these events, as frustrating as they are, are essential to you getting to the next level. In love and in life. They aren’t the verdict.
And it’s not the Universe saying you suck.
It’s part of the process of transforming your life from the inside out.
It’s a temporary side-effect on the way to creating what you desire.
It’s like popping the zit.
First all this crap comes to the surface, it pops and BAM! Clear skin.
Your face may be a little sore.
You may want to use some cover-up and hide out.
But all in all, it was just a zit.
Your Life Isn’t Falling Apart
In short: When you start taking massive action in the direction of your dreams, making changes and doing things differently than you’ve always done them, it can feel like your life is falling apart. But you don’t have to let it stop you. It can help you know that on the other side of pulling yourself out or asking for help out of the hole, is a new place.
One that is more like you.
A better fit.
More fun and way more real.
Will you rise to the challenge?
So, the real question is:
Are you willing to keep going towards your deepest desires even when your life appears to be falling apart? Or are you going to quit at the first sign of a challenge?
If so, in the comments below, post 1) what your big desire is and 2) one action you will take this week towards it!
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