Can you attract love if you don’t have your financial shit together? Q+A with Diana!

Q: I feel like I don’t have my financial shit together, so I don’t feel like I’m a good match for someone until I figure that part out first. I want to put myself out there, but I’m afraid that if I do meet someone they will just judge me for not having it all together like them. I know this is stopping me from being fully open to love, but what can I do?

Click here to watch what I told her + even if you are already in a relationship, check it out because the advice shared is all about empowering you to allow in more of the good stuff!

 

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does it have to be ‘hard’ for you to receive it?

Have you ever had any of these lines running through your head when it came to receiving something you really wanted?

“If I didn’t ‘work for it’, I don’t really deserve it <insert awesome desire here>.”

“If it comes too easily, it’s probably a fluke.”

“If comes too easily, I won’t really value it. If it’s hard, I’ll know it was worth it.”

These are some of the stories you can tell yourself that keep you stuck from either

a) letting something or someone go who is taking up space in your life or

 b) receiving at the Highest capacity in the most graceful and efficient way.

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To give you a real-life example: Diana’s crazy as* dream

One of my craziest dreams: I was trudging up a crazy rock that turned into a gigantic slide (yea…it was pretty wild!). I was trudging up there to get my red suitcase that I had left at the top and everyone was waiting for me at the bottom of the scary rock to go to the airport.

My palms were sweating and my heart was beating so fast and I wanted to cry. What if I didn’t make it all the way up? What if I fell and died? And the most hilarious question: What if I take too long and people get pissed off that they miss their flight? (recovered people pleaser here!)

But I knew if I just stayed where I was, it was going to be a long, painful experience. So once I got to the top, I saw two red suitcases-one was mine and one…get this…was my ex boyfriend’s red suitcase with all his baggage in it! (Huge metaphor!)

And in that moment, I made the decision to just take my suitcase and leave his luggage behind!

I grabbed mine and slid down the slide with ease and I squealed like a little kid as I sped down the scary rock mountain. And I got a high five and waves on the way down.

Now let’s break that down.

My subconscious (like yours) works things out in dreamland and after talking it out with my good friend, she pointed out that perhaps mine was working overtime but had finally created space for me to stop the pattern.

The pattern of associating letting go of something that had long been kept past its expiration date with PAIN and scary up-hill struggle….and feeling like I was responsible for anyone’s baggage but my own (especially in romantic relationships!).

I had to trudge up the hill (my belief that it had to be hard) but once I made the call from my Soul vs. my old story to only take my baggage down, I was free.

And it was actually quite fun to let go and I was calm in the knowledge that if he wanted to trudge up the scary rock mountain slide to get his baggage, it was quietly waiting for him up there. But I had a plane to catch!

What it really takes to transform this belief that in order to receive something great, it must have to be a “hard” process:

 You must:

  1. shift into seeing yourself as someone who is worthy of great things (without struggle as a requirement)
  2.  be willing to let go of the commitment you made to struggle and…
  3. Make a decision and daily commitment to doing what is healthy and loving for yourself (even if it annoys other people)

Q: Have you ever struggled with the belief that things have to be hard? What has helped you or which of the 3 tips above will you implement this week? Share with us in the comments here!

Want to let go in a safe space with a community of like-minded peeps?

Join me for my FREE Community Group Energy Clearing Night: Heal Your Heart Space this Thursday, May 25 (new moon!) right here: https://dianadorell.lpages.co/hyh/

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want to let more love in? try this!

Are you ready to call in MORE?

Have you been held back by past disappointment or fears?

I’ve got your back!

So excited to be sharing one of my favorite mudra (body symbols) and accompanying mantra that helps with:

  • Reprogramming your subconscious fears around receiving
  • Letting go and letting someone into your heart after being burned in the past
  • Lowering anxiety + calming your nervous system (yay calm energy!)

Watch this short video and do the exercise with me! 

You can do this inconspicuously in your office, before bed, or whenever you feel that constriction in your body that comes up when you are about to sabotage an opportunity!

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how to deal with FOMO (my spiritual advice for you!)

Have you ever suffered from FOMO or fear of missing out?

 

Maybe it was a second date you passed up.

 

Or a job opportunity.

 

At the time, something felt off so you said thanks but no thanks.

 

And then later you start to spiral out and wonder, “Did I in fact pass up the love of my life? Or the perfect project? What if I don’t get another chance?”

 

I’ve been there so many times and I know what that feels like.

 

I’m going to share with you what a mentor shared with me that I’ve since passed along to private clients and friends who find themselves in a mental mindgame that drains your energy like no other!

 

Click below to watch the short video.

 

 

ps: Want more? Join me for my FREE training “3 actions that block your manifesting mojo…and what to do about it!

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this question floored me..

Are you ready to give up being the warrior?

When I first heard a mentor ask that to a group I’m a part of , it floored me because even though the question wasn’t directed specifically at me, I could see how it described perfectly the way that I operated for the whole of my twenties and early thirties in relationship…and the dilemma many of my clients also face when they are just at the brink of a breakthrough in their relationship space, often with themselves.

This archetype of being a warrior has many connotations but for simplicity, assume that we are discussing the unhealthy pattern or “shadow” side of this powerful energy.

Characteristics of a warrior “Shadow” archetype:

  • Protecting or providing for someone you love at the expense of your own well-being
  • Rescuing or trying to control an outcome for someone else..
  • Kicking up drama in order to feel something…anything…to get a response or reaction from another
  • Fighting for someone who doesn’t want to fight for themselves
  • Doing things for someone or a cause from a stance of being “against” something or someone

I’ve heard so many women say how exhausted they are at feeling like they have to do battle with the world in order to be loved or to feel worthy of receiving love and a life of freedom, grace and magic.

Do you know a woman like that too?

If you fall into any of the above characteristics, just recognize that acknowledging a pattern of be-ing in relationship is truly half the battle towards shifting it. Release any judgement. Be gentle with yourself.

Most of us have never been taught another way.

A way that’s based on the premise that there’s nothing you need to fight for or defend because you’re connected to everything and everyone.

A way of be-ing that is less about pushing and forcing an outcome and more about creating space to act when  you’re guided to act…and to be still and open to receive when it’s time to do that too.

From that space, you bring in very different types of people into your world and relationships.

You may have gotten addicted to being a warrior.

To feeling like you have to ‘earn’ it or work hard for it.

‘It’ can be anything from a beautiful relationship, a job or business you love, money, anything.

But what if  you didn’t have to earn it or even work hard for it.

Would you still allow yourself to receive love?

The Shadow warrior would feel guilty. Or try to overcompensate. Because it wouldn’t feel worthy.

Or deserving.

But you are both.

You are worthy and deserving.

Breathe into that…say it aloud..notice any resistance that comes up.

Diana Dorell

This week’s soul Q: So let me ask you again, even if you don’t yet believe it, “Are you willing to give up being the Shadow warrior in your relationships?” What could open up for you or be different if you really, really let it go?

I’ll let that question simmer….

Hit reply and share if you feel guided!

Ps: Want to tap into that ‘other way’ I mentioned? Come to New York next month! I’ll be co-hosting a fun and powerful afternoon workshop called Love Your Intuition and would love to have you there!

 

Click the image below for more info.