are you ready to stop ‘effort-ing’ so much?

Awhile back I was listening to the fabulous Kyle Cease riff on this idea of less effort, time and other gems.

But what struck me the most was when he shared how as a society we have gotten so addicted to filling our minds and our schedules with meaningless activities.

Basically ‘fillers’ so we don’t have to be still and actually listen to the whispers of our heart.

Oh snap! Guilty…

Cue endless brain-cell killing episodes of Love is Blind on Netflix…

Taking it a step further, I invite you to consider this-where do you mindlessly fill your time and schedule with these “fillers?”

When it comes to relationships, a big complaint I hear from both men and women is…

 “I’m not getting what I need from them (partner/lover, etc). How can I get them to give me more and pay more attention to me?”

A: Sure, naturally I want to share with you….shift your focus away from what you’re not receiving and focus on what you are, but even deeper than that…

<drumroll please>

Be a safe space to receive…

This is from Kyle Cease-I can’t take credit for it but it’s brilliant.

The more you grasp and cling to a particular thing, anything really, the faster it goes away.

Because you’re not a safe place to come to when you’re grasping and needy.

Instead, be a safe space to receive…some ways to be that?

• Practice exceptional self-care. 

You can’t expect someone to give you what you aren’t willing to give yourself.

• Be ruthless around how you use your time.

Go back to the fillers question-how could eliminating just one of your fillers free up blank space in your head, your heart, your day? 

Time is the only thing you can never get back, so if you’re busy filling it with crap so you don’t have to be still, there is no space to receive anything…

• Discipline yourself to wait for an answer when it’s time vs. going after immediate anxiety-provoked gratification.

If you have a question, let it linger. Meditate on it. Let it go. Trust that when you’re meant to know, you will!

Q: Which one of these “receiver” tips will you implement this week? Share with me in the comments!

ps: Want to slow your roll? Check out my popular guided meditations in the store!