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The Secret to Lasting Love: A word from the wise…

February 12, 2013/8 Comments/in Relationships /by Diana Dorell

With Valentines’ Day quickly approaching and just coming off the heels of the New Moon in Aquarius, you may be contemplating your closest relationships (or lack of relationships and intimacy). It can be so easy to judge ourselves, going into a tailspin of thoughts and fears like…

I should have X by now because I am (insert your age). What’s wrong with me? I wonder if I’m even capable of having a lasting relationship. Maybe I should just get used to being alone. If you’re in a relationship, the day may bring up all sorts of expectations about how your lover displays his/her affection and what that means for your future status.

It can be a real bit^#, right?

Carlos

Well, I do have some words of wisdom to support you along the path of discovering LASTING LOVE. They come from my wise Aquarian grandfather, Carlos, who just turned 90 years old last weekend! I had the good fortune to spend some quality time with him alone. I always look forward to our visits and he’s famous for giving the impression that he’s comfortable with letting me get away with small talk and surface discussion, but then he’ll launch unexpectedly into some deeply philosophical conversation that forces me to look at things in a whole new way. It’s maddening at times, but there’s no denying that beyond the youthful twinkle in his eye, is a wise One.

The Secret

The topic of love came up (of course it did!) and when he asked if I was in a relationship, I said yes. He continued, smiling but never letting up. “So, tell me. Is he a machista? Is he arrogant? What is his impression of women?” (Here we go...I thought to myself, smiling.)

I replied with, “He’s great, Grandpa. You would really like him. He’s an Aquarius like you. He’s pretty quiet but we love each other and he says he wants to make me happy. I hope you get to meet him someday.”

(I paused for reaction).

He just stared at me and was silent for a few minutes. (Great. I could take the barrage of questions, but not that stare. It’s penetrating and it feels like he’s looking into my Soul. Have you ever had someone look at you like that and you wonder how they can know so much about you, more than you know yourself?)

After what seemed like an eternity, he started laughing and giggling (I wasn’t sure if it was at me or at his own thoughts!)

And then he came out with this:

“People (meaning me apparently!) confuse making someone happy with love. You see, happiness is a state of mind. A state of contentment. You give a dog food. He’s happy. It’s very easy. But love, true love on the other hand, that’s different. True love is when you intend to create an environment, a space, where the other person can be fully themselves.”

Whoa. I had to take that in.

But I didn’t get a chance to. He continued.

“So, Diana, does he do that? Do you do that? Are you both committed to creating an space where you can both be yourselves, no matter what?”

Talk about being on the spot.

I shouted out, “YES!” without much thought, which made him smile and honestly surprised me a bit. (Yes, even I have a tendency to come from my head sometimes before my intuition!)

He laughed again and then he shouted back, “Mija, let’s have some oranges! And I have Hershey chocolate too!” (Totally out of left field. I love Aquarians.)

The Lessons and Your Turn

1. Happiness is a choice we make independent of anyone else (single or attached.) Tweet This!

2. Being in a loving, mutually beneficial relationship (even with ourselves) requires a commitment to allowing each person to be fully themselves. Where true love exists, there is no room for inauthenticity. Tweet This!

3. Your Turn: Fill in the blank.

To me, true love is _________________________. Post a comment with your response! Feel free to get creative!

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Love,

Diana

Want more success? Make this phrase a regular part of your vocabulary!

February 5, 2013/2 Comments/in Big Transitions, Relationships, Tools to Skyrocket Your Business /by Diana Dorell

Do you want more success?

That’s awesome! You so deserve it. You are after all, a Divine Being.

But first, have you caught yourself (or someone else) saying or thinking any of the following?

Things aren’t happening as fast as I want them to.
Things are okay. They could be better, but they are okay for now.
I plan to leave my (job, relationship, etc) but now’s not really the right time.

All 3 of the phrases above have something in common:

They are all based on passivity-thoughts or seeing some external force as the thing that’s keeping you from what you want.

These thought patterns are most likely based on fear.

Fear of rocking the boat.

What if I take action and it doesn’t work out?

What if I make the wrong choice?

What if (insert a person’s name, etc) won’t like me anymore?

Who am I to (insert what you REALLY want)?

These aren’t rational fears. No fear really is.

5-word phrase to help you break through this way of thinking:

MANTRA: “I act with Unwavering Commitment”

This came to me from a quote I read in Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T.Harv Eker from the explorer W.H Murray who said the following during a trek to the Himalayas. (.71)

“Until one is committed, there is a hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings, and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.”

The Lesson: 3 Steps to Success

In short, if you want something to change in your life,

1) You must acknowledge your fears but you must have the courage to act in spite of them.

The limiting thoughts that are based upon the idea that there is a “Luke-warm Plan B. A Fallback Plan that really makes your Soul cry or that you can’t possibly find any joy in. An escape route that is there simply to make you feel ‘comfortable.” Because given the opportunity, your subconscious will choose Comfortable Plan B over Uncomfortable, Risk-Taking, Ego-crushing super high SUCCESS-potential Plan A.

Once you COMMIT to Plan A ALL THE WAY, even if you fail, you will have won giving it your best shot. Only then can you clear the energetic space for the Universe to truly deliver on its promise to help you manifest your true intentions.

2) Follow the guidance you are given through your intuition without question.

Even if it’s hard.

NOTE: Part of “Plan A” may involve creating a strategic exit route from a job, relationship, etc that takes your basic needs into account. That’s different than defaulting to a Plan B. That’s just making a calculated risk and that’s smart and sometimes necessary! When it becomes an issue is when you say you want Plan A, but really you don’t want to let go of Plan B (so you don’t!).

3) Stay Open

Once you are committed, you take action when nudged from within, then you need to stay open to receive! That means if you encounter worry, try something like the WORRY BOX to help manage your fears when they come up! You’ll be ready to receive your gifts with open arms and a feeling of peace and ease and that is truly the recipe for lasting success!

With my orange tree. Mother Nature reminds me that we are ALL abundant!

YOUR TURN!

1) What is ONE thing YOU are committed to this February? Post a comment!

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Love,

Diana

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Do you worry too much? Try a Worry Box!

January 29, 2013/6 Comments/in Big Transitions, Relationships, Tools to Skyrocket Your Business /by Diana Dorell

Worrying lowers your vibration and energy. It helps no one and actually can BLOCK the solution to your quandary.

But it can become addictive, as if “worrying” about a thing means we are being “productive or good,” especially if it’s around a person or situation near and near to our hearts.

There is a solution though! See below!This is a fun and inexpensive way to release your cares and worries to Spirit so that the energy you spend on worrying is re-directed back to YOU to use for other things that LIFT your soul!

It’s called the “Away Worry Box!” (I trademarked that. Just kidding!)

Materials needed:

your Intuition
Empty tissue box
Sharpie or marker
index cards, post-it notes or any scraps of blank paper to write your worries on
optional: choose a power color tissue box or use a marker to color it to one!

Directions:

Every time you catch yourself worrying about the same thing over and over…

1. write it down on a piece of paper and

2. drop it in the Box, with the intention to completely surrender the situation to Spirit, your Angels, etc.

3. If you want some extra support, write a prayer, mantra or statement of intent on your box to help remind you to LET GO of control. (My box is below so you can see an example).

4. Optional: If you are sensitive to colors and want to get all crazy with your box, consider adding colors to your box to enhance the quality you are wanting to call into your space.

Purple: Spiritual Wisdom, Intuition

Green: Healing, especially emotional

Pink: Love, Compassion

Yellow: Personal Power/Healthy Boundaries

Blue: Communication, Respect

White: Clarity, Peace

Enjoy! And Please let me know how your box is working for you!

Take Action and Announcements:

1) Do YOU have any tips to help you overcome or deal with worry?

Have you ever shut down your intuitive gifts? Watch the Skype Interview below with the Reinvention Channel!

January 22, 2013/0 Comments/in Big Transitions, Relationships /by Diana Dorell

Lights. Camera. Action!

Fun disclaimer: I was convinced that the interview would be audio and when Vidette, CEO of the Reinvention Channel told me it was SKYPE VIDEO, well…I took it as a sign to keep moving forward despite all my insecurities and fears about “being more out there.” There are truly never any accidents!

In the video, I share:

How you can tell if a message is truly your intuition vs. fear
A simple way to quiet your mind (specific breathing)
You’ll get to hear my personal journey and the lessons I learned about living fearlessly from intuition!
ps: For the most bang for your back, carve out 20-25 minutes to watch the whole thing and take some notes!

After you watch:

Share a comment with me on here! I’d love to hear from you and also hear your insights.

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Love,

Diana

3 revealing questions to help you know a relationship is right for you

January 16, 2013/3 Comments/in Relationships /by Diana Dorell

Relationships. Love. Ugh

It can be so hard. I don’t want to deal with that Diana! (I can hear some of you in my head!)

A few weeks ago, a woman asked me the following question and I’m curious what you would say to her.

Dear Diana,

Q: I am wondering whether or not to stay in this relationship or to just throw in the towel. I feel so confused. Should I keep working on it or cut and run?

A: This is a big question that goes much deeper than just this relationship.
I will frame this by saying that the way we are in one relationship tends to be the way we are in all our relationships, so when we can see our own underlying patterns, then we can start to get back in the driver’s seat and make a choice from our intuition vs. our fear voice or what we “should” do.

Without much more information to go on, I wanted to share 3 soul-inspiring questions that can help you make the decision that feels right for YOU in any relationship, personal or professional.

The 3 Questions:
1. How do you feel about yourself when you are with this person?

If you had to pick 3 adjectives that described how you feel and they are all things like “content, respected, heard” vs “I feel tired, confused, like I have to hide part of myself” then that is a good indication that you and this person are vibrating on similar energetic frequencies! A sub question is “Does being with them energize or de-energize me?”And if they are on the latter, then perhaps you are vibrating in different places. It doesn’t necessarily mean you shouldn’t be together or involved, but you may need to have a conversation around #2.

2. What is your main intentions and reasons for being in the relationship? (Be TOTALLY honest. The first answer is usually the purest one.) If you’re not sure, start there. Without a clear intention for WHY you are interacting with this person, you are subject to play a defensive role in the relationship, which sets up an unequal connection. If you are sure, ask them theirs! Are the two aligned or polar opposite? That is more information for you that could open up a very powerful dialogue.

3. What would it take to EXCITE you in this relationship? Again, this is not about changing anyone, but it is to simply open up your subconscious to possibility. What is your ideal scenario, even if you aren’t sure it could happen? Answering this will help you identify your core needs and make it easier to communicate them and consequently get them met!

In the end though, as with any major decision, we have to search deep within to our inner Knowing. Our intuition. And trust the information that comes, even if we don’t like it! (That’s where most people trip themselves up.) We want another answer and then we think we are “confused.” You may be super clear, but you may also need to make some pretty uncomfortable changes to move forward.

Take Action:

I want to hear from you.

1. What would YOU say to the woman who asked the question above?
What has helped you make a difficult decision or deal with the fear that comes up with relationship stuff?

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Have a blessed and beautiful week and remember: You are Loved. So, go out there and share your heart with others. Let them see who you really are. Have compassion and keep sparkling my darling!

With Love,

Diana

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