Do you undervalue yourself?

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“I worked for a menial’s hire,

Only to learn dismayed,

That any wage I had asked of Life,

Life would have willingly paid.”

-Jessie B Rittenhouse

 

I first read that quote in Napolean Hill’s Think and Grow Rich and everytime I re-read it, I find something new (great quotes do that!).

 

Have you ever done any of the following?

 

  • Said YES to a friend’s request for a favor even when you really wanted to say NO but you were too afraid?
  • Said YES to the first offer in a job that know you’re overqualified for but you are too afraid to counter-offer and command what you really know you’re worth?
  • Said YES to a lover or spouse and done something (or accepted some kind of behavior) that made you feel less than or frustrated afterwards?

 

If you say YES to any of those, chances are you are undervaluing yourself in some area of your life. (By the way, you’re not alone in this camp. The reason I wrote those examples is because I’ve said YES to all three in the past and I know how soul-sucking it can be!)

 

As it relates to your most important relationships, are there places where you see your energy being leaked simply because it’s too scary to rock the boat?

 

You’ll notice a common theme in all those 3 questions above: FEAR.

 

Fear of not being liked.

 

Fear of losing something or someone (sometimes before you even have it!)

 

Fear of confrontation and not being loved for who you are.

 

But I don’t want to focus on fear. You are a highly conscious, intuitive being (I love you!) and it’s so easy for us to focus on releasing fears, over-processing and putting energy into how to fix something when my opinion is this:

 

What if….

 

What if there was nothing for you to fix?

 

What if instead you chose to put your focus on ACCEPTANCE and truly loving yourself?

 

What if you felt afraid and did it anyway?

 

What’s the worst thing that could be possibly happen?

 

If we go back to the quote at the top, “…any wage I had asked of Life,

Life would have willingly paid.”  I have to ask you the scary question:

 

What kind of WAGE do you WANT?

 

And when you think about your most precious relationships, WAGE = The qualities of how you intend to be treated and treat others.

 

Example: Respected, harmonious communication, powerful, sexy…you get it, right?

 

See, most people want the Universe to give them a big ole HANDOUT because they are too lazy to take personal responsibility for their failure to say what it is that they WANT in the first place!

 

The ones like you reading this know better. If you know what you want and you ASK for it, you’re 100000X more likely to actually get it than the person who says, “I don’t know. You decide Universe. Whatever. (But if I don’t like it, I’ll blame you!)

 

(You can tell this subject gets me riled up!)

 

Take Action: Your Turn!

 

So, I’m curious.

 

1) What is YOUR desired relationship wage?

 

2) If you’re brave, post your top 3 adjectives that describe how you intend to be treated/treat others using the leave a comment at the bottom of this post.

 

3) I love you (that’s not an action, but I just wanted to remind you of that!)

 

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Have a fabulous rest of your week/start to SPRING and I look forward to reading your “Relationship Wage” adjectives!

 

Love and Blessings,

 

Diana

 

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Let your S.O.F.T side out

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Want more respect and a winning reputation? Let your S-O-F-T side out!

Aretha sang about it. You want it. More respect. That’s R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

There’s nothing more frustrating than feeling like you are in a one-sided conversation or feeling like your words don’t matter.

Luckily, there is something to help you have better communication with the person of your choice. Maybe it’s your son or daughter, a business partner, your lover or dare I say it, YOURSELF.

When you follow these steps, you have the potential to be known as a “5-star” communicator and you can watch your reputation and your energy skyrocket. I call it let your S-O-F-T side. Get a notepad!

But don’t take my word for it.

Try it out for yourself and remember, the action continues after you watch this video. Be sure to post a comment after you watch and share it with your friends!

In this video, you will learn:

 

  • How to stop going on the defensive when you’re about to have a difficult conversation
  • My secret tip to getting more respect without DOING anything
  • My easy 4-step, 5-minute process to building an awesome reputation (and relationships!)


Take Action Time: Your Turn!

1. Which of the 4-steps of the S.O.F.T process are YOU going to experiment with his week in your conversations?

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The most overlooked action to take when you’re struggling with a decision

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What’s one area of your life where you’d LOVE some more clarity?

I can feel some of you saying, just ONE, Diana? What if I’m going through a complete life overhaul?!

Usually this place is an area where you have some questions, some confusion, a lot on the line.

It’s also usually something that is near and dear to your heart.

Maybe a relationship. Maybe a place to live. Maybe a job or business opportunity.

When we’re going through any transition and have to make a big decision, it’s easy to feel like we’re going to go totally go off the track and be back at square one if we do this one, simple action.

Can you guess what it is?

Take a Guess!

Take a guess! Let’s play.

No, not just “going for it” for the sake of going for it.

If your heart isn’t totally saying, YES, then ‘going for it’ anyway can be the avoidance of some deeper awareness that you may be in denial about. Go gently with yourself.

On the other extreme, the answer is also not meditating to escape our reality, pulling card after card with the anticipation that we’ll get the answer we want to hear. That is just another form of avoidance of what is bubbling up inside of us in the present.

Got another guess?

A third, often overlooked option is to do nothing.

Before some of you start rolling your eyes at me, let me expand on this a bit.

Have YOU ever..

Have you ever had the experience where you really needed to make a decision (sometimes we put the pressure of a time-table on ourselves) and your brain starts to dart this way and to try and deal with that, you start looking for things to do that seem so important like… cleaning your house, re-organizing your sweater drawer, cooking, meditating, internet surfing. All to avoid the mental chatter inside your mind that is nagging at you, reminding you, ‘You STILL haven’t figured this out.?’

I have too.

My personal brand of ‘I am trying to escape the crazy thoughts in my head?’ updating my website, which side note: honestly, I should really stop trying to do myself!

The Golden Ticket

*Doing “nothing” CONSCIOUSLY is really a simple way of saying to the Universe, “I choose to stop the mental worry around this situation. I totally SURRENDER.” Click here to Tweet That!

Complete surrender.

It’s not that you stop your life or pretend that everything’s rosy when it’s not.

It’s about choosing consciously to stop trying to pretend you have to know exactly what to do right now. You may not. You may already know what to do but there’s fear that comes up.

Okay. Sit with it. Stop trying to escape it or negate it. That voice will just get stronger after you come back from your distraction haze. In my case, html haze. Haha!

What I found is that the moment of COMPLETE and total surrender is when solutions and options unfold that you couldn’t see before.

People come out of the woodwork to offer their assistance.

You get the money you were so worried about to pay off a debt.

Your ‘relationship issues’ seem to dissolve when you simply tune inside and listen more than  you speak.

It’s AMAZING.

Now, I’m no guru at this, but I can say that when I am super stressed, and I sit quietly with myself and with every fiber of my being as best as I can in that given moment SURRENDER it to Spirit, the next right action comes pretty fast.

The trick?

You have to stop pre-judging it or have a timeline or way that it has to look.

It takes practice, but wouldn’t you rather be AMAZED than moderately satisfied?

I’ll leave you with that question.

I have to go practice what I preach now.

Toota-loo!

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Love,
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Want to be successful? Banish this word from your vocabulary!

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When you are going through a transition or a shift, whether it’s personal or professional, it’s natural to experience feelings of insecurity, fear, indecision and joy all wrapped into one. After all, when you leave behind what you’ve always known to embark on a new path, a new way of BE-ing, a period of adjustment is in order.

But, especially among the highly-conscious, sensitive-to-energy folks like you and I, there is one word that can (at least in my personal opinion) block you from opening up to the full potential of your new chapter change.

That word?

Comfortable.

How many times have you heard someone share their intention with you or maybe you’ve even included it in a statement of intent/mantra or repetitive thought yourself.

“I just want to feel or BE comfortable.”

“I want X experience to be peaceful, easy and comfortable.”

“I just want to make enough money to be comfortable.”

You’ve shot yourself energetically in the foot right there.

Because let’s face it.

You are a powerful Be-ing.

The words you say DO have energy and vibration behind them.

Golden Nugget:
Very often you don’t get exactly what you ask for. 99% of the time, you get what your subconscious is programmed to believe is possible.

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And if you are using the word COMFORTABLE, here’s my take on it:

1. If you had the intentions above AND you acted in full alignment with it (no couch-sitting!), you would probably feel peaceful, you will probably draw in enough money to pay your bills. Things may even feel easy..at least for awhile.
2. But you’ll most likely stay exactly where you are. Where you probably are right now. Comfortable.

 

You’re Different

 

But if you’re reading this, I have a feeling you don’t just want comfortable. You don’t just want “okay.” You want superstar success and sparkly energy and the whole shabang!  You probably know that there is something MORE for you. There’s something you’re not FULLY stepping into. Maybe because of what someone told you growing up, maybe because of a fear of failure or even more common, a fear and expectation of success and what could come with that! You have to move past that if you want a different result in your life.

3. When you’re living your Purpose, when you are acting from your Goddess/God space, and you are EXPANDING and GROWING, it is NEVER comfortable! It’s downright UNCOMFORTABLE, painful and Ego-shattering. (I know, I made it sound very not fun!) The pain is the EGO dying and the Truth being brought to the surface so you can make a different choice.

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Discomfort in Action: 3 real-life examples

#1 A funny thing has happened to me each time I go through a major transition.

My low back would go out. Like I’m talking on the floor, can’t walk, feel like I’m 1,000 years old stuff. Painful stuff. Crying in the middle of the night because it hurts so bad. And it almost ALWAYS happened during a crazy big overhaul of my life.

Some of the ones off the top of my head? Leaving a thriving practice behind in California to venture to Arizona with no real guarantee it was going to work out. Surviving a painful breakup with a man I thought I was going to marry and having to get real that it wasn’t going to happen and I was alone again. And finally, every time I’ve massively up-leveled my income/business, my back decided to sit this one out. It would always pass (sometimes it lasted a day and other times, it lasted a few weeks!) But it ALWAYS passed. My heart and intuition was in exactly the right place, but my body and subconscious were freaking out and needed time to catch up and know it was going to be okay!

#2 One of my clients shared with me that after she decided to let go of what she felt she HAD to do and stepped fully into what she really WANTED, she felt like her whole body went through a crazy shock. Shaking. Nausea. Headaches. (The body was freaking out, but it was temporary).

#3 Another mom confessed to me that when she got clear on what she knew to be true in her relationship (it had run its course and she wasn’t receiving what she really wanted-a deep soul connection), she felt a big fear storm come upon her. It required her making some BIG choices that would affect her and her family. And it required fast action from her gut.

Did she feel comfortable? Absolutely NOT. But she hung in there and even amidst the rampant fear thoughts like “Can I really do this?” “Who am I to do this?” “What will everyone think of me?”
she is on the other side. I got an email from her Friday and she’s feeling more expansive and alive than she has in a long time! But it wasn’t overnight. It required her going through the DISCOMFORT trusting that she’d get to a better place.

The Point and Your Turn:
If you KNOW you’re at a crossroads right now, and you know you’re in the middle of a fear storm, my invitation is to banish the word COMFORTABLE from your mantras, affirmations and intentions and remember this:

“If I am uncomfortable, I’m growing. I choose to swap being comfortable for being ALIVE and fully ME.”

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1) What is YOUR intention for this week?
Brave souls, post away using the “Leave a Comment” button to the right.

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Have a fabulous week and I look forward to reading your INTENTIONS!

With Love,
Diana

 

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3 Ways to Deal with Delays

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Delays. Miscommunications. Frustration.

Any of the above sound familiar to you?

It’s actually a blessing in disguise but if you are new to looking at energetic cycles, the whole thing can be maddening, confusing and make you question yourself big time.

To keep it simple, basically starting the 23rd of this month (Saturday) to March 17, there is a particular astrological shift called Mercury Retrograde. It’s a time when the planet Mercury (which rules communication) basically decides to take a snooze and sit this one out. This period actually gets a very bad rap but I have come to actually embrace and love the Retrograde cycles.

To help you make the most of the weeks to come, I’d like to share some other dates and THREE ways that you can prepare for this (and dare I say, actually ENJOY) the delays!

 

1. Back-up your systems NOW

(and buy any necessary electronic devices before the 23rd or after the 17th!) 

  • Do you have an external hard drive or back-up system for your computer? If not, consider investing in one NOW before the 23rd. (Wow…I’m also reminding myself as I write this!)

NOTE: If you buy between the 23rd-March 17th,  there’s a high probability that something electronic you buy could have a defect and you’d have to take it back to the store.

  • Consider putting your contact info or taping a business card to the back of important electronics like your cellphone or laptop, especially if you plan to travel during this time.
  • Have a reservation somewhere? Call ahead and TRIPLE CHECK you’re in the books! Things can go awry, paperwork can get lost and the more you can plan for the unexpected and have details handy, the smoother this ride will be. If you have a plane to catch, get there earlier than you would and pack light if possible. Bring a book in case you encounter lines or gate changes, etc.

 

 2. Listen to your BODY (seriously listen)

  • What foods has your body been asking you to avoid? Are you listening or ignoring?
  • Great time to start a cleanse, eliminate the stuff you KNOW is toxic. Also, if you’re bored with your workout routine, now is the perfect time to change it up and ask yourself, “What would sound like FUN?” Listen to your body vs. the scale or even your head to let you know what type of movement to commit to. The more you move your body, the more energy you release and the greater the space you create for more to come your way.
  • If you are curious about doing a cleanse, check out Tanuja P’s Love your Body Project

 

3.  Reconnect and Make Amends

  • Has an old friend, lover or perhaps “enemy” that you have been trying to avoid been coming up in your mind? Perhaps it’s time to have that uncomfortable conversation, to let go and to open up space for a new connection (maybe with them or maybe with someone else!)
  • What or who do you perceive has HURT you? That’s the place to look inside yourself for what is still needing to heal. This is a great time to take your energy and power back in that situation by asking yourself, “What was my role in all this? What did I agree to that maybe I would not have agreed to now?” Listen. Learn. And then it becomes a lesson vs. something you have to survive.
  • Great time to see old friends, have an impromptu gathering, swap clothes/objects/anything you’ve outgrown that could be someone else’s treasure. De-clutter + FUN=the name of the game.

 

To top it ALL off, on the 25th (Next Monday), we have a FULL MOON energy around, so it will be especially important to wrap-up unfinished business with another, yourself and I’m feeling intuitively, anything related to finances and the government (hello tax preparation!). Create a plan, get your papers in order, enlist help where you feel overwhelmed and remember that it’s okay to FEEL the emotions. They are there to inform you but you are more than your emotions. Listen to what they have to say, move with them and they will carry you light and free through this Retrograde. You’ll come out the other side ideally:

  • Clearer in what you want
  • With a clean, open and de-cluttered heart and home/space
  • More compassion and appreciation for the simple things, including your connections with others

 See. It’s actually a GREAT period. Easy does it. I’m rooting for you! 

Take Action: Your Turn! 

1. Which one (#1, 2 or 3) speaks to YOU to work on this week? Why?

2. Post a comment using the “Leave a Comment” on the right side of this blog! Let’s connect! 

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Have a fantastic week and I look forward to hearing all about the miracles and manifestations you create during this Retrograde/upcoming Full moon energy cycle. To YOU! 

With Love and Blessings,Diana 

 

With my orange tree. Mother Nature reminds me that we are ALL abundant!

With my orange tree. Mother Nature reminds me that we are ALL abundant!

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