ready to kick your old pattern to the curb? do this!

Q: I’m newly back in the dating game and am really trying to be mindful to not repeat the same patterns from old relationships. I’m ready for the real deal-I’ve looked at each ex and gotten clear on what didn’t work in that relationship (I even made a list!), but is there anything else I can do to help me prepare for someone new? Am I missing something?

A: Great question! There are so many things you can do to prepare, but for now, let’s focus on the list that you made. It’s awesome that you are diving deep into what didn’t work for you in the past so you can make different choices with the new person you want to call in.

However, in addition to making a list of the things that didn’t work, I invite you to look at your last 3 relationships (even if they didn’t work out) and write down the feelings or positive things that these men brought to you. I know this may sound strange, especially if your ex was a douche bag, but when you shift your perspective to see in what ways that relationship DID support you, even if it’s simply showing you something about yourself, you’ll see common threads. And those common threads become what I call your love threads. Those things that help you flourish in a partnership.

For example, when I did this exercise a few years ago, I saw that the last 3 people I dated seriously all brought the following gifts to me: the gift of sensitivity (emotional sensitivity to me and to the people I cared about), a spirit of generosity (these men all had generous hearts and also loved to make sure I felt taken care of) and a strong family connection (shared value of family). Now, those relationships didn’t work out for various other reasons, but when I saw the common threads, I understood that those three things were really really important to me in a partner. So, when I got back out into the dating game, after a date, I’d ask,

  1. Do they give off an energy of sensitivity to what I’m saying and to the people around them (how did they treat the waiter, the lady in front of us, etc).?
  2. Were they generous or were they guarded with their giving?
  3. (If it came up) What is their relationship to family? Is it important or are they strictly flying solo in life?

Knowing your love threads can help you filter out who to see again and who to politely decline.

And that’s power.

This week’s Soul Q: What is your love thread? Pick one and share with us in the comments below!

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  2. There are 4 core blocks I see that stop you from being a love magnet. With your permission, we can do an energetic Love Assessment to see which of the 4 or which combos of the 4 are your primary blocks.
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this small shift can change your life…i’ve done the leg work for you!

Happy Tuesday!

How was your weekend? Did you do anything fun?

Quick update: I just got back home to the desert from New York City. Had a blast meeting with old friends and also clients who I’ve worked with on the phone but never met in person! Fun pic from my recent “Wealthy Goddess” event below with Lorena Morales! Also just kicked off my free 3-week video training series called “Live Like a Goddess!” Want to join me and learn how to receive? It’s not too late! Hop in here.

Can I share something really weird about myself with you that is the intro to today’s inspirational post?

Here it is.

I loooove…. pennies. 

In particular, finding pennies on the floor. I prefer the super new shiny ones, but the rusty, not-sure-i-could-give-this-to-a-cashier-it’s-so-covered-in-crap ones are cool too.

I get ridiculously excited and I sometimes squeal with delight when they make an appearance.

To me they are evidence that we are supported by the Universe.

They are a symbol of the energy of abundance, which to me certainly includes financial moo-lah but also love and our capacity to receive all the delights and desires of our Soul.

Since I got off the plane for my NY trip, I found a penny everyday, if not more than once a day.

Sometimes the Universe even threw in dimes!

Each time, even in a crowded subway or intersection, I would respond in the same way.

Delighted! Smiley! Filled with joy and with a big goofy smile on my face that I’m sure scared people (or disgusted them…or didn’t faze them..it’s NY after all).

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If you aren’t experiencing what you want in your relationship space, or in another area of life, consider that you may have put your focus on the wrong thing.

Example: When I kept finding those pennies and dimes, I was usually just in the present moment. Trying to find the right train to take so I wouldn’t get lost…again! Or looking for a sign or a friend who was meeting up with me. But in the back of my mind, I expected to find more pennies and dimes AND…I learned to stop trying to control when or how that would happen.

To test this theory out, for about ten minutes when I had alone time, I focused totally on pennies and dimes. I just knew I was going to find them. And I looked hard. Every sidewalk, my eyes scoured left and right, determined. I started to feel really tense and my breathing got shallow. I almost ran into a kid in a stroller I was so focused. And as you can probably guess, the result was no pennies or dimes. Just a whole lotta stress, wasted mental energy and a bruised toe!

I had a good laugh and then focused on the beautiful church that happened to be on my right. It was so beautiful and I sent a pic to my boyfriend.

And one minute later, there it was. Penny number two of the day.

So, in short here are this week’s action steps:

  1. Notice-are you operating from a space of knowing that you will have that hot relationship, etc but allowing your mind to come back to a space of ease, joy and the present moment? Or are you focusing so hard that you are creating negative things like stress, anxiety or worry? A simple awareness shift is all it takes to bring you back.
  2. One of my favorite mantras? “What I truly desires also desires me. It’s safe to let go.” Have a go with it. Say it aloud when you find yourself gripping  or write it out a bunch of times and notice how it feels!”

May you find many many “pennies,” and have a beautiful week!

Love and Blessings,

Diana

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are you burned out? 3 daily practices to live like a goddess..and rock May

May’s message is about receptivity, which has truly been a theme of the past few weeks.

How open are you to receiving more than just enough in your life and in your relationships?

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The card says, “Allow yourself to receive. This will increase your intuition, energy and ability to give to others.”

The Goddess Hathor who the card has on it was an Egyptian Goddess of the Sun, representing fertility and true love…and she is often portrayed with the animals cat (connection to the psychic realms/subtle energies) and cow (nurturing and sustenance).

If you’ve been running yourself ragged, like most of us do at some point when we are trying to be SuperWoman or SuperMan, Hathor’s message is even more important.

Often times we think, “I’ll slow down and be still as soon as X happens first.”

But that is a surefire way to burn yourself out.

Can I share another way with you that combines the two energies of independence and also nurturing like Hathor?

I call it the Goddess way.

I would love to help you come back to yourself so you can be more available to the people in your life and the opportunities you want to create.

Here are 3 daily practices to manage your energy levels…and live like a goddess.

1. Listen to music that uplifts you as you begin…and wrap your day.

This sounds so simple, but it amazes me how many stressed out folks I see who are blasting music with lyrics that are unsupportive or harsh to the senses after their work day. If you are extra sensitive, instrumentals are awesome.

2. Compliment at least 1 person a day (preferably someone you don’t really know)

Being a goddess is about sharing love and noticing beauty wherever you go. It has nothing to do with a false sense of superficiality but a true appreciation for all the things already present in your space that delight you! So the next time that person in the grocery line is wearing something that looks beautiful on them or brings out a positive essence, how would it feel to be a bit ballsy and tell them? Watch them smile and that energy will radiate back to you!

3. Choose to stop multi-tasking…even if it’s just for 10 minutes.

A Goddess knows the power of focus. When we can zoom in on what’s in front of us, we are in full power and in full presence. When you scatter your vitality, mentally, physically or emotionally/spiritually, the other person gets a divided version of you….and so you may see divided results in your life. Try this and notice how much more energy you have when you just do one thing at a time…and trust that it will all get done in the perfect time.

Q: Which of the 3 daily practices resonate with you this week that you are willing to try out? Share with me in the comments below!

Want more?

Join me for my upcoming FREE 3-week Live Like a Goddess challenge that starts on May 9 (New Moon-wohooo!)

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I will be diving in deeper into the ways you can live like a Goddess from the inside out.

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are you tired of getting sucked my other people’s energy? visualize this!

Have you ever had a situation where you come into a room feeling peaceful and chill…and after a brief interaction with an anxious person, you too leave feeling anxious..and confused?

In this video, you’ll learn a very simple 3-step process and visualization to help you manage your own energy level and stop getting sucked into other people’s stuff!

This week’s Soul question: Have you ever gotten pulled in by another person’s energy? What helped you? Share with us in the comments below!

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don’t let this slow your flow

Has this ever happened to you?

You want a relationship.

Or a job.

Or a home.

You’ve gotten specific. You’ve checked to make sure it’s a true desire vs. a passing want. And you’re taking action and also waiting for signs to keep going and pass Go.

But nothing much seems to be happening.

You ask yourself, “What am I doing wrong?”

Sometimes it’s truly about Divine timing and we just have to be more patient and shift the focus to appreciating all the abundance, love, money, etc already present.

Other times, it’s that we need to tweak and be more clear on what we’re asking for.

Or we need to take different action.

But sometimes it’s something else that could be slowing your flow.

It’s subtle, but very very important.

It’s because we are emotionally attached and energetically hooked into that thing we want from a place of fear.

We’ve all done it (myself included!) and what it’s really saying to the Universe is “Please give me that thing. I need it. I need it so badly. I’m afraid I won’t get it. So I’m going to cling and focus so hard on it so you know that it’s really mine…. and could you please give it to me now so I can stop worrying about losing it?”

I liken it to a child squeezing their pet so hard that the thing literally yelps and trying to escape its grasp.

And most importantly, it needs to feel the energy of genuine joy and passion to be drawn to you. Very different than fear and anxiety.

Especially if what you are trying to call in is a relationship.

So…what can you do about it?

Here it is: Shift your perception from what you’re going to get to what you will bring to this this that you’re asking for.

Ask yourself: “What can I bring to this person/situation/etc?” It could be something simple like, laughter and fun.

In short: pour your passion into it vs. worrying about what you aren’t getting/are getting from it.

And here’s the cool part: Then…the Universe gives you more anyway. Way more. Like blow your mind, whoa-really-I-get-all-this more.

I’m not totally sure why it works that way, but it’s just been my personal experience.

Who would you rather date? The giver or the taker?

Which one are you drawn to?

Be the giver and you will get, naturally.

Capiche?

Now over to you beautiful Soul!

Q: What is one quality that you feel you bring to a relationship (or whatever it is that you are currently desiring)? Declare it in the comments below and let’s rev up your manifesting energy for the upcoming new Moon!


 

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