5 Truths towards self-love and self-acceptance

The Paradox of Transformation:

5 Truths on Self Love and Self-Acceptance

debGuest Post By Deborah Reynolds

I am writing this guest post from my bed at the Omni resort in gorgeous Tucson, Arizona. It’s 10pm, the rain is gently dropping on the roof like the sound of hands clapping in a small theater.  I am breaking into the mini bar for cashews to crush a salt craving. Calories be damned. I am on a two-day VIP retreat with Goddess Diana to create a new vision for my business and reconcile my love life.  Day 1 just ended.

 

We decided in the hot tub, after our chicken wings and tuna sliders, that I would write this for her – and you.  There is nothing like a report from the soldiers on the front line in the quest for enlightenment.

 

Here are five spiritual truths I got after the first day that hopefully will help you in your own quest towards self-love and self-acceptance.

 

Truth #1 Transformational healing takes courage.

It’s a journey and a mindset that takes courageous work and support. It takes great effort and consistent commitment to integrate completely. We wonder if we’ll ever “heal” completely. Sounds like another job. But here’s what I’ve found.

 

Truth #2: There is no place to go. You’ve already arrived. There is no great single aha moment that will always occur to let you know that you have transformed once and for all. There is no profound change that will suddenly take over your psyche and you will never feel worthless or bad or ugly again.

 

So you may ask, then what is enlightenment and transformation? How does it happen?

 

Here’s my take: it is simply the moment-by-moment practice of a profound and real self-acceptance of those ugly places and feelings and a deep, abiding self-love for your humanness.  From this deep place comes wise choice and effective action.

 

Truth #3 Your authentic transformation starts from the act of simply accepting.

 

The Buddha found enlightenment while sitting under the Bodhi tree.  Sitting and noticing his inner world.  It happened in a flash. Enlightenment and transformation come to us in a moment, and that is a moment of stillness when we accept our situations and ourselves completely – meet ourselves where we are and with love and compassion for where we are – care deeply for ourselves. It happens when we bring clear, kind vision to our current situations, habits, actions or inactions and accept the truth of the moment.

 

The paradox of being human is that we believe that there is something fundamentally wrong with us, and to heal and transform our lives, we have to change everything about ourselves.  

 

My story:

I woke up this morning in a start full of fear, my mind racing about work and being away, some large business payments due this week, my son’s doctor appointment, my taxes, a perceived betrayal by a business partner, blah blah blah. I lit a candle, sat cross legged on my bed and began to name all the feelings rushing through my mind and filling my body: fear, anxiety, resentment, stupidity, untrustworthiness, shame. Breathing into them, I allowed myself to feel them deeply, feel my cells reacting, the heat on my skin, the knot in my stomach, whatever arose. I met these with compassion with an open heart for my struggles, my decisions, my humanity. I acknowledged the truth of my current situations, the choices I made to get here in this moment without judgment and chose to love myself with all my heart in this moment, with great compassion for my suffering, deeply connecting with my humanity. I had to do this three times.

 

I know that millions of people on our planet woke up with many of those same feelings of fear, shame, guilt or thoughts of lack or failure as a mother, father, husband, partner, wife, employee, boss, some perceived failure in being a good human being.  It is the human condition. No one is free from this.

 

Nelson Mandela changed the fate of a nation through acceptance and love.  Gandhi set his country free through a radical acceptance and non-action.  The simple practice of acceptance and presencing love and deep compassion for ourselves can change your world. It brings a consciousness to the moment where all decisions are made, and it’s in our choices where our lives and mind are changed.

 

Truth #4: You are imperfect. We all are.

Acknowledge that to be human is to be flawed and know this.  Accept it. Feel it deeply. Love yourself and make different choices with this knowledge.

 

Transformation happens in the moment. That moment is our Bodhi tree.

 

And now for the big Truth #5…..The boundary of what you can accept is the boundary to your freedom.

 

Whatever you want is waiting for you on the other side.

 

The question is…Will you accept it? Will you accept you?

 

I’d love to write more, but my eyes are closing and the fluffy bed is calling my name.

 

From my heart to yours,

Deb. Or as Diana calls me…Goddess Deb.

 

This week’s Soul Question: Which of the 5 Truths speaks to you today? Why? Share with us by leaving a comment!

 

Your Hostess, Intuitive Coach, Diana Dorell

Your Hostess, Intuitive Coach, Diana Dorell

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Your March Message from the Angels

Happy March 2016!

This is one of the most fabulous months of 2016, and as such, I made a video to help you

  • know the key “themes” of March so you know what to latch onto
  • an energetic overview of how you can maximize the beginning, middle and end to the month!
  • I’ve pulled TWO oracle guidance cards for you for March so have more clarity and spiritual anchoring!

Watch below:

This week’s Soul question: What is one thing you are excited to PURGE and one thing you are excited to CREATE this March? Share with us below!

Are you looking for some spiritual guidance or transformation, especially around relationships?

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can i give you a gift on this full moon?

Happy Tuesday!

Did you get a chance to stare outside and take a look at the Full Moon?

Many of you have shared that your sleep has been restless, your dreams have been “interesting” and suddenly, it’s like certain things that always used to fit into your life just…don’t. Oh, and then there’s that strong dose of “needing to be productive and get organized” energy.

Are you feeling me?

You’re not going crazy.

Things are just getting re-arranged in your favor, even when they come in strange packaging.

And this Full Moon is all about the S-word.

Service.

Where can you be of more service to yourself and others?

Where can you allow yourself to receive more from the people in your life who want to help you?

Where in your life are you allowing or resisting?

Newsflash:

The Universe wants to bring you more, but first you must be open to receiving more (without guilt or shame)

So…in the Spirit of Service, may I give you 35+ free gifts and a chance to win a private session with me ($300 value)?

Some of you have found me through my good friends Sherold Barr and Wendy Gless’s More Money, Love and Everyday Miracles Give-Away.

If so, welcome! I’m so glad you are here and I hope you are already enjoying your gifts!

Haven’t heard of the Give-away?

In a nutshell, I’m proud to be a featured expert along with many other fabulous powerhouse spiritual Goddesses including Colette Baron-Reid, Crystal Andrus, Elizabeth Purvis…and we are offering the community our gifts.

For free.

High value, content-rich gifts designed to support you in growing your business if you have one, opening up to bring in more money, experiencing deeper and more satisfying l-o-v-e (you guys know I am ALL about that!) and most importantly, cultivating a life that is based on your desires.

It’s like attending a gorgeous 5-star gourmet dinner and getting the most delicious, nourishing yummy food that you want. Except it’s for your Soul.

I believe that the gifts are only available for another day or so, so please do yourself a favor, pour yourself a cup of tea and click on everything you feel guided to grab from the feast!

Get your goodies here Goddess: http://MoneyLoveAndEverydayMiracles.com

This week’s Soul question:

Q: Where do I feel guided to GIVE and be of greater service? Where can I open myself up to receive more service from another?

 

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PS: Stay tuned for March because I have something I am going to spill the beans about that is so freakin exciting I can hardly stand it!

where are you right now? how to stop future trippin and making yourself crazy

So, one of my favorite poses to teach in yoga is Warrior 2.

I have a special kinship with it and if you’re not familiar with it, you basically take a giant step back with your right or left foot, bend into the front knee,  your arms are in a T-position and your torso is turned to the side. (image here)

I wasn’t exactly a born yogi.

I’m restless. I hate to be still and at the beginning of my yoga practice, I just wanted to push myself to be the most flexible person in the room with her leg up highest (yes it was super obnoxious but that’s what you get when you put a ballerina in a room with mirrors. we just want to look amazing!)

So anyhow, the teacher had us go into Warrior 2 and I was so proud at how deep I bent down-surely she would notice. My front thigh was burning and I looked beyond my fingers and stretched my front arm with so much force you’d think I was reaching for the last cup of water on earth.

It was not comfortable at all.

It was actually quite painful.

She came right by me and gave me a few adjustments and told me to breathe.

Okay.

And then she said the following (when you totally know that what she’s about to say is probably about something you did, but she’s trying to be diplomatic and make it be beneficial for the whole class).

I used to teach high school English.

I know the deal, my logical mind shouted.

The Lesson:

She said, “Where you right now? If you stretch your torso too far forward, you put pressure on  your knee and you are concerning yourself too much with the future that does not yet exist. This is the energy of anxiety.

If you hang back and stretch back with your back arm, you are stuck in the past. This is the energy of depression.

The power comes in the present.

So, instead of reaching towards or away from something beyond your fingers, think about sinking your hold torso DOWN. Sink into this moment, feeling balanced in both the front and the back feet.

That is the gift of the present. Peace.

Well that about summed up my entire life.

So often I found myself obsessing about the next little tragedy that was sure to happen in a relationship….the whole waiting-for-the-other-shoe-to-drop thing.

Or obsessing and reliving the past and getting myself all sad and yes depressed that time (and a guy) had moved on from me.

So there in that yoga room, in Warrior 2, I found the peace I was so desperately looking for but didn’t even know I needed.

Over to you.

This week’s soul question: What is one tip or suggestion that has helped you stay out of the past and future tripping? Please share in the comments below!

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how to stop feeling invisible

One of you lovely souls who shall remain anonymous asked me to address the following question from last year’s feedback form:

Q: Diana, can you give me any tips for how to stop feeling invisible in my life?  I feel like other people just draw attention naturally to themselves, but I’m not like that and I would really like to make new friends and have a relationship that lasts past two dates.

A: First off, thank you so much for your bravery in asking this question. Feeling invisible when you want to connect with others socially and romantically can feel incredibly frustrating.

Here’s a question to consider asking yourself that is something I wrote about in last week’s blog in more detail.

Q: Close your eyes and imagine that you walk into a party or you walk into a first date. Immediately people want to come up and talk with you and engage with you. If you’re visualizing a date, they compliment you and ask you personal questions to genuinely get to know you better. What happens in your body as you imagine this? And secondly, what are you afraid to share with them or afraid that they will ask you about?

Write those down. Often times when we feel invisible it is because deep down, our subconscious fears are driving the bus.

And here’s the big take-away:

When we feel invisible, there is a good chance that the perceived pain of revealing a part of ourselves to another is greater than the desire to have the relationship we say we want.  TWEET THAT!

And as long as that is true, you’ll keep feeling invisible.

If you’re ready to change that, the next step is to look at the list of things you wrote down and start accepting and loving yourself, even the things you are scared of people finding out. Once you can accept yourself, flaws and all, you’ll be radiating a different energy that says, “come talk to me. I’m comfortable with myself as I am and you are free to come as you are too.” That’s magnetism!

Thank you so much for asking this important question and please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing after checking out this exercise!

Q: Have YOU ever felt invisible in your life? What helped you come out of that feeling? Share your wisdom intuitive Souls in the comments below!

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