The subtle ways high-functioning women give their power away (and don’t even realize it)
I had a small moment this week that really caught me.
I had followed up with a doctor after getting some imaging results… and didn’t hear back for almost three weeks.
And I noticed the subtle thoughts starting to come in:
“Maybe she’s just busy…”
“Maybe I should wait a little longer…”
“Maybe I need to follow up differently…”
Nothing dramatic. Just… that in-between space.
And it reminded me how easy it is to give our power away in ways that don’t look obvious.
Especially in those the quiet moments where we:
- wait for clarity
- explain a little more
- start justifying
Even when something in us already knows.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot, especially after sharing last week about spiraling.
Because when we don’t trust ourselves internally, it doesn’t just stay in our thoughts.
It shows up in how we move.
This week:
I recorded a short audio on this!
What it actually looks like and the shift I’m making around it.
Listen here:
What it actually looks like and the shift I’m making around it.
If nothing else, I’d invite you to just notice:
Where are you still waiting… instead of deciding?
Over to you:
I’d actually love to hear, where do you notice yourself waiting instead of deciding lately?
With love,
Diana
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Hi Diana,
I know exactly what you’re talking about.
I recently asked my son if we could attend a birthday celebration together. I don’t own a car so I would be travelling with him. He said that it would be fine but we would have to go early in the afternoon around 1pm. I was disappointed because I knew all my relatives would be coming in the evening but I agreed to go at 1pm anyway. It didn’t sit right with me for a few days so I called him back and said that he didn’t have to bother and that I would be going on my own volition. I would go by public transport which is quite good here in the Netherlands. I don’t see my cousins and aunts very often so this was a good opportunity to do so. My son who is a lovely person but not so into seeing his relatives.
I felt much better after having made this decision to go on my own. Initially I felt that I was giving my power away.
Thank you for sharing this, Sandra! It sounds like you definitely got clear on what your biggest desire was which was to spend time with your family without having to be on anyone else’s schedule and found a solution to facilitate that. Bravo! Much love, Diana