Have you ever seen the movie, Bridget Jones’ Diary?
There’s a great line in there that goes something like this:
“Why is it that when one part of your life starts to go brilliantly, another part seems to fall spectacularly apart?”
in the movie, she’s referring to being in a fun, exciting new relationship while her relationship with her mother starts to unravel. Fast.
Have you ever experienced that?
There are all these fancy phrases to describe this phenomenon, but to make it fun, let’s call it the “Subconscious Meltdown.”
Basically it’s when you dramatically up-level one area in your life that has been a thorn in your side… and your subconscious freaks out.
It is feeling unsafe, unsteady and in new territory and all those pesky little beliefs that go contrary to your new reality decide to make an appearance.
All with the safe purpose of helping you feel comfortable. Safe. Status quo.
You’ve been on dates, despite feeling scared as heck.
You agree to a second date, things are going amazingly well…
You’re smiling, feeling sexy and desirable…
You have a meeting with your boss who says they no longer need you.
And the date cancels.
Oh, and you get a nail in your new car tires.
It can feel like the Universe is messing with you.
And it’s so easy to go into victim-mode, curl up in a ball and think the whole world is against you.
It’s easy to just stop trying for what you want and justify that you really likes here you are…really…it’s not that bad, right? Not!
But the thing is, these events, as frustrating as they are, are essential to get you to the next level. In love. In business. In life. They aren’t the verdict.
And it’s not the Universe saying you suck.
It’s part of the process of transforming your life from the inside out.
It’s a temporary side-effect on therapy to creating what you desire.
It’s like popping a zit.
First, all this crap comes to the surface, it pops and bam! Clear skin.
Your face may be a little sore.
You may want to use some cover up and hide out.
But all in all, it was just a zit.
In short: When you start taking massive action in the direction of your dreams, potholes can and do appear. But you don’t have to let it stop you.
It can help you know that on the other side of pulling yourself out or asking for help out of the hole, is a new place.
One that is more like you.
More in alignment.
More fun and way more authentic.
So the real question is: Are you willing to keep going towards your deepest desires even when the other shoe you didn’t even know you had…drops?
If so, in the comments below, post 1) what your big desire is when it comes to relationships and 2) one action you will take this week towards it!
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