With the holidays upon us, you may be bombarded with invitations to gatherings, anxiety around hosting family from out of town or the opposite, maybe feeling lonely or conflicted about not having people around or familiar surroundings.
No matter where you find yourself as we wind down November, trust that you will get through it!
There may be things in your life that you wish were different. You may have heard yourself saying things like…
I should be married by now.
I should have more money in the bank.
I should be or have <fill in the blank>. What’s wrong with me? Why do other people have that and I don’t?
The key to move through these difficult thoughts and the emotions that accompany them is not, contrary to popular opinion….gratitude.
It’s something else.
Accepting your reality just as it is right now. Not trying to escape it or live in the past. Or a future based on your fears.
I went to the Center for Spiritual Living this Sunday with my partner and the story shared was about the Reverend attending this workshop on grief and going over to this woman’s home for lunch afterwards. She had set three placemats and he was confused-who was this mysterious third guest?
She opened up to him and shared that it was for her late husband.
She said, “I even keep his dry cleaning on the same hook over there.”
And sure enough, he saw a 3 piece navy blue suit.
Well, at that moment he felt so stupid for asking or for not being more compassionate about this! After all, they had both just come from a workshop about grief!
They had a nice meal and the next day, he visited the friend who had led the workshop.
She said, “You know….she’s been coming to this workshop each time I offered it. It’s actually been 10 years since he passed..”
And his eyes got wide as he took this in. 10 years?
He went on to share with us the difference between allowing yourself to move through the stages of grief and clinging to it, draping ourselves in it because it’s too scary to consider that we aren’t the same person we were and that the event happened a long time ago.
While not the same scenario, this lesson relates to our thoughts that we hold close and the stories we tell ourselves.
Yes, maybe you aren’t married and you feel upset.
Yes, maybe when you look at your bank account, it’s not what you want it to be.
Yes, that all may be true. But does it change that you are whole and complete and beautiful just as you are in this very moment? That this is a temporary experience that you will emerge from?
Your power comes from acceptance about where you are and reminding yourself WHO you really are-a Divine Being with infinite potential.
So back to you, Q: Where could you benefit from accepting something in your life and coming back to the present? Are you willing to increase your compassion for yourself and stay open to what your intuition wants to share with you around it?
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