Ready to ROCK your love life and TRUST your intuition? 2 events you won’t want to miss below!

Today’s insight is a bit different than my usual ones. You see, tomorrow (August 21) is my birthday (wohooo!) and I’d love to invite you to two virtual parties that I’m hosting this month! (one of them is on my actual birthday TOMORROW) Will you come?

See, I don’t know about you, but for me, birthdays are a time of reflection and celebration. I used to get all wrapped up in how much I hadn’t done by X year and get all down on myself, which led to me isolating myself and doing nothing. Well, this was just well, not very fun. So, now I see them as an opportunity to step up my game. To shine as bright as I can even if it’s scary. And to expand and share my message at full wattage, full authenticity, even if it doesn’t vibe with some people or it ruffles a few feathers in the process.

So, that’s why I’ve created these two events for you! I believe you are beautiful, worthy of love and have all the answers you need inside of you. But to really attract the brass ring of success, however you define that, the #1 thing that can help you get there is to TRUST YOUR INTUITION.

Both events below are intended to help you trust your intuition so you can create not just okay relationships in your life, but exceptional ones. And they are free, but like any exclusive, fabulous party, you do have to RSVP!

 

Party #1: August 21 (My official birthday!)
The Diana Dorell Radio Show: 3 Spiritual Lessons To Help You Trust Your Inner Wisdom
That’s right! I’m hosting an exclusive 30-minute radio segment on Blog Talk Radio and am sharing the top 3 spiritual lessons that have been most influential in my life as I reflect on my last year that helped me learn how to trust in myself (even when the going got hard). I’d also love to take your calls and do some laser coaching with you to help you trust YOUR wisdom!

This Wednesday, August 21
When: 6pm Eastern/5pm Central/3pm Pacific
How to listen: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dianadorell/2013/08/21/tips-to-attract-your-soulmate
Call in to speak with me at (619) 924-0894

Party #2: NEXT TUESDAY (August 27) *this is the correct new date!
Where Is My Soul Mate Already? Discover Your Love Blind Spot(s) So You Can Finally Have it All!
If you have been doing affirmations, working on yourself, putting yourself out there and nothing has really changed and you want it to, it could be that you have energetic blocks (I call it your Love Blind Spot) that are making it hard for you to call in a new love. On the call, I will be sharing my personal story with you and you’ll be learning an energetic tool to help you release ties with people and old relationships as well as an exercise that most people don’t know about to help you prepare to meet the love of your life.

 

***You don’t want to miss this! Even if you can’t make it live, sign up to get the recording. I’m serious! I am going to go FULL OUT on this call and I even pushed the date back (it was originally the 20th) so that I could prepare to offer you up even better, actionable content.

To RSVP, click here:
www.DianaDorell.com/manifestmrright

Have a brilliant, bright week and I look forward to connecting with you at these two events!

Love,
Diana

Karmic Connections Part Two: How they affect you in the present…a true story from Diana

Could a past life agreement be keeping you from getting what you want in this lifetime?

I’d love to share a true story with you about a man I was in a relationship with and shared a significant past life with. 

After you read it, be sure to post your comment to the question at the end!

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It wasn’t until I was able to first clearly identify these past life agreements and truly release them in a safe space that I was able to break my pattern of attracting men who I could be in partnership with and feel loved and respected in the way that I know I deserved.

 

True example: Roberto

*name has been changed for privacy

 When I first met Roberto, I knew it was a karmic connection (like I described in an earlier video) because within the first few minutes of our first date, I was intensely triggered emotionally. Everything he said pushed an emotional button for me, but I kept leaning in because my body felt inexpicably drawn to his. It was like my body was on auto-pilot even though my intuition was going, “Red flag! Red flag! Be careful!” Yea…I ignored that voice. He was hot. I figured maybe I was being too picky.

But it wasn’t until I went over to this home for the first time that I started to get the feeling like we had had a very significant past life together. He had this huge wall hanging up of an Aztec warrior holding this Aztec princess on the ground. When I saw it, I gasped and he smiled. “It kinda looks like you, doesn’t it?” he said seductively. And he inched closer to me. My face and my body was on fire. Be careful! Be careful! said my intuitive knowing. But, damn, he is HOT! My inner Goddess flirted back. I downed a glass of wine so I wouldn’t have to listen to the first voice anymore for the rest of the night. I stared at the wall hanging more closely.It looked EXACTLY like me and my hair stood on end. Without thinking about it, I blurted out, “I bet you have lots of corn stored up and stuff to make a fire in case the world ends, in the back left corner of your house, right?” He stared at me for what felt like an eternity.

 “Yes! I haven’t told anyone that. How did you know that?” (Shit, I thought. Here we go….)

 How did I know that? I just did…and I could see pictures of both of us in the Aztec community, doing some kind of marriage ritual. He was like this King, all the women loved him. And he loved the attention. I was kind of in the background even though I was supposed to be the focus of the ritual. I felt resentful, alone, betrayed by my own family.There were lots of people. Colors. Words I didn’t understand. I closed my eyes and drank more wine. This was going to be an interesting night.

 

I felt incredibly on edge, off-kilter and unsafe emotionally (I just never felt like I could trust this guy) but again, my body didn’t care. And so began a crazy roller-coaster, sex-fueled six month affair with Mr. Aztec. The entire time we were together, I felt myself progressively shrinking energetically and whenever the evening was over, it was the SAME pattern. I’d be EXHAUSTED and I’d feel small. Just yea..small and like my Light was dimmed somehow. And he’d have all this energy, his skin would be glowing and he’d say, “I just feel like I am a KING when I’m with you! Like I can do anything! I’m BIG!”

 

Now I know better. What was happening was an unhealthy energy exchange. He was taking my Light and I was letting him, giving my power away by the second and getting drained of my core Life Force. I started missing appointments and he started getting new business (he was practically broke when we met, go figure). I had never been more elated, confused, and generally all over the map than during that time with Mr. Aztec. And I was a smart, intuitive woman. Why was I WILLINGLY putting myself in this situation?

 

The 3 Agreements

Now I know. I had some serious karmic agreements that needed to be brought to the Light, healed and cleared. Among them?

*The belief that my worth was determined by my fertility and sexual desirability.

(In that past life picture, I was a princess, but a princess with no power-once I was married, I lost it all and had to become basically a sex slave).

 

*The belief that I only deserved what I was given vs. standing up for what I really wanted (In that past life, I was not given the choice of who I was with. That was decided for me from the time I was born.)

 

*The belief that a good woman’s duty is to her husband and to use her voice or her gifts is selfish. (In that past life, I knew that I was a powerful healer and would lead rain dances and ceremonies for children to help them heal from disease. All those tribal assignments were taken away after the marriage ceremony.)

 

That information came to me over the course of time in that relationship and afterwards, but if I had had someone to guide me through it, I could have arrived at that clarity a lot quicker.

 

The way it ended:

One day, my intuition would not be stifled any longer and I just left his house and told him that I couldn’t dim my Light anymore (yes I actually said it like that!) and he and I were finished. He pursued me for months after and as  you probably guessed, I ended up going back for round 2 and round 3 before my head-heart and intuition were finally in agreement that this was NOT good for Diana! Ironically, once I finally was able to let it go, clear up that past life karma and take full responsibility for my choices in that relationships, there is now no weird or unhealthy energy between us and we parted amicably when I moved states. The karma was DONE. Thank Goddess!

 

The point:

 Past life connections and agreements can keep you stuck unless you consciously identify, clear and release them. Along with those are the limiting core beliefs that get stuck in our subconscious field and when you can rewire that, you free yourself energetically on many levels for new things and people to come your way! (without all the roller coaster drama!)

 

Your Turn: Fun Question!

Q: Are you already aware of a past life you’ve had? What was it? If not, what era are you drawn to in this lifetime? Why?

Ex: I love 1920’s buildings because they represent Old Hollywood Glamor.  

 

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Things to do when you find out your ex has moved on….unfiltered!

You broke up a year ago. You’re totally over him. You’re feeling like yourself again.

And then you get on Facebook and innocently check out his page. And BAM! There it is. His relationship status has changed to “in a relationship.”

Or your well meaning friend (thinking you’re over him/her) casually mentions that He/She-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named just moved and ps, their new sig-o is wearing a sparkler on a special finger.

Let’s face it, finding out that your ex has moved on SUCKS. There is no easy way around it. It can send us into a spiral of shame, despair, anxiety and bursts of fiery rage!

I’ve been there (actually both of those scenarios are from my life) and luckily there are three things you can DO to get your energy moving out and on from what’s-their-name.

 

1. Name it!

There is nothing less authentic than pretending that you don’t feel what you do!  So, before you go into …..“I am FINE. I am thinking POSITIVE. I send him and his new girlfriend lots of love and Light” do yourself a favor and LET IT ALL HANG OUT.

Let yourself cry, yell, scream, hit the pillow, laugh. Feel it fully and don’t try to rationalize it. It’s not rational. And it’s okay.

2. List it!

Get out a sheet of paper and write down all the things that you no longer have to deal with by being with this person. Keep it short and sweet and don’t censor yourself. If you’re a Type-A Goddess, I want you to write down at least 5 things.

TIP: Do this in your own handwriting vs. typing as it is easier to stay out of your head.

Ex: He never shaved. She will never tell me that my car hobby is stupid. Etc….This will remind you why you aren’t with them and thank Goddess! It keeps the focus on the space you are creating by not having this person in your intimate space anymore!

 

3. Affirm it!

One of my favorite mantras for letting go of feeling rejected is “Rejection is Spirit’s protection. Something perfect is on its way.” Say this each day, several times a day if you need to to remind you to focus on expansion vs. going back and dwelling on the past. Your ex is your ex for a reason. End of story.

 

Your Turn!

Q: What advice do YOU give to your friend who finds out her ex has moved on? Do you have resources, actions or tips you can offer up? Post a comment! You never know who just got off Facebook and desperately needs to hear what you have to say!

 

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Which relationship team are playing for? Quiz inside!

Do you want a healthy, connected, passionate relationship where you get to be yourself, feel adored and appreciated?

Do you want to hold onto the success you’ve created and feel like it’s only getting better as opposed to feeling like you have to compromise yourself or struggle?

Congratulations! Most of us do. But one thing I noticed is that the people who seem to be happiest in their relationships (and not surprisingly in their careers) play for a very different team than the majority. And it starts with who they are BE-ing not necessarily what they are DO-ing.

Find out which team you predominately play for and which one sets you up for the most success below!

Disclaimer: I’m a basketball fan (one of the few sports I’ll actually watch and play for fun!) and as you read these, please know that they are generalizations meant to help you see yourself better in relationships but are not representative of every single person.

 

The Teams: Which One Are You On?

Relationship Team #1: Defense

Players on this team:

  • Tend to over-give out of guilt or fear that something will be taken away from them if they don’t

  • Are poor at setting boundaries with themselves and others (and/or actually sticking to them)

  • Play to not fail.

  • Top excuses of why they can’t be who they want to be: “I don’t have TIME. I’m too BUSY. I have to wait until ______________changes and then I’ll do it.”

  • Wait for external circumstances to change before taking a risk for fear or hurting someone or losing everything. (And then of course these people end up with FAR less than they deserve and the cycle repeats).

Relationship Team #2: Offense

Players on this team:

  • Tend to push others away emotionally for fear that something will be taken away from them if they open up/are vulnerable

  • Set strong boundaries and are quick to write people off when they cross them or fail to meet their high expectations (take-no-prisoners-attitude)

  • Play to conquer or prove something.

  • Top excuses of why they can’t seem to have a healthy relationship: “No one measures up to me. I need someone as/more successful/hot/better reputation etc than me. I refuse to settle for anything less.”

  • Jump into the next relationship/experience without completing the last one or slowing down to see the lessons learned (And of course, because they never completed, they bounce from love to love blaming the other person or saying that there is no one out there for them, but they refuse to look at the common denominator: themselves!)

 

Now I know you might be saying to yourself, “Great, Diana, so what’s the “right” team then?”

First of all, its not about right/wrong.

It’s about taking the best of both teams and blending them into a BALANCED energy.

 

Check it out:

 

Relationship Team #3: Hybrid for Success

 

From Light side of #1

  • Exhibit compassion for another person and themselves

  • Feels safe to draw a boundary and communicate it, even if they are afraid

  • Takes risks and plays to WIN, even if that means temporary discomfort or a change in circumstance

 

From Light side of #2

 

  • Knows that the relationship is more important than needing to be “right”

  • Feels safe to say I need help/be vulnerable

  • Completes what they started and is willing to admit when they made a mistake

  • Self-reflective and willing to listen to constructive feedback/give constructive feedback while keeping Ego intact

 

Take Action: Your Turn!

 

It’s not an exact science, but by practicing and trying on the characteristics above, you will be well on your way to attracting healthy, dynamic and fulfilling relationships!

 

Q: Which Relationship Team quality will YOU try out this week?

 

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Do you tend to take things personally? Try this on for size!

Do you tend to take it personally when things don’t go your way or things don’t go as planned?

When it comes to our relationships, this can wreck unnecessary havoc and stress if you let it take the reins.

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be the end of the world, but it requires a conscious shift in mindset.

 

A real-life example of a brave, fabulous woman named Nancy

*names have been changed for privacy

 

*Nancy came to me devastated and very anxious. She had recently gone out with a man who treated her like the fabulous Goddess she is and whom she had a really great first connection with. When he walked her to her door, he leaned in and instead of trying to come in or give her a goodnight kiss, he told her, “I had such a wonderful time with you. You are beautiful.”

 She was stunned and shocked. Immediately, she assumed she had done something wrong because he hadn’t wanted to come in and take their relationship to the next level. Was it her body? Was it what she asked him during dinner? Why wasn’t he wanting to sleep with her? What was wrong with her? The mind kept going. Thoughts like…”I knew there were no good men out there. Nobody wants me. I’m not sexy. Etc. Etc. Etc.” (I call this the Ego rant).

 

I gently shared with her:

“Nancy, one of the patterns you’ve been letting of/changing  is needing external validation in the form of sex/physical demonstration from the man in order to feel desired. You said you’re tired of attracting men who only use you for sex and don’t want anything else from you and you’re tired of having to do everything (being in masculine energy). Take a step back and if you’re open, try this possibility on.

 

You actually manifested a man who is the opposite of what you’ve had before. And you did that pretty quickly and without needing to push for it or make it happen a certain way (being in the feminine).He treated you like a lady and instead of wanting sex from you on the first date or getting physical, he told you you were beautiful. Your Soul probably LOVES this but there may be a core part of you that is like…”Red flag! Red Flag! This isn’t what we’re used to! Something must be wrong with this picture. I have to DO something about it (Ego rant and freak-out).

 

She paused and with a new lightness in her voice replied, “You know what? I never thought about that before. I guess I hadn’t seen that I actually did create what I say I wanted. But when he treated me well, it was so foreign that I just assumed it was me doing something wrong because he didn’t want to get physical right away.  But I did change the pattern. It just felt really strange.”

 

Exactly. But with practice, that new pattern becomes second-nature. The Ego likes to have a field day but in the end, your Soul knows what it deserves.

 

The Core Lesson: Before you take something (anything personally):

 

1. Call yourself out.

You know you’re in defensive, insecure, taking-things-personally mode because you can tend to feel SEPARATE or isolated from another or the world in some way. Your body may tense and tighten and your breathing may get shallow. If you’re there, that’s your cue to verbalize it. Say ALOUD if you can. “Ok, I’m in fear mode right now. This sucks. I feel so upset….Let your ego RANT until it’s exhausted. It just wants to be heard, but it’s like a little kid having a tantrum. Don’t take what it says too seriously.

The key? Let it ALL out (in a safe space like a journal or in your room) but once you’ve had it out, move on to step 2 without needing to recreate what you spewed in this step. The truth is, it doesn’t matter. Sometimes we just need to air out our Ego’s energy before we can hear the Soul’s truth (step 2).

 

2. Ask, “What am I learning about myself right now?”

This will automatically shift your focus from YOU and what YOU aren’t getting from someone or something to what you are LEARNING about the experience (abundance and possibility).

With practice, this will get easier and like Nancy, you’ll be well on your way to creating harmonious relationships that uplift you and empower you!

 

Take Action: Your Turn!

1) Have YOU ever taken something personally?

2) What did you learn about yourself in that experience? Any tips to stop doing this? Share away!

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Love,

Diana