Mindset tip to get your needs met…and show up like the superstar you are.

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Have you ever felt like your needs aren’t being met?

 

Do you have trouble communicating how you really feel to another person?

 

Do insecurities and fears hold you back in relationship?

 

I recently experienced this.

 

We had spent more than 24 hours together straight and well…somewhere in the middle of the afternoon, my inner introvert was really needing space.

 

But I didn’t know how to say that because I was so afraid of having it come off the wrong way.

 

Maybe he wouldn’t like me.

 

Or maybe I was just being bitchy and weird.

 

So instead of being a grown ass adult and communicating what I needed to, I proceeded to get on my phone, find a spa and book this elaborate 90-minute massage so I could get.away.

 

Now, I’m a big advocate for massage but I didn’t need to do that-I could have just said, “I really love spending time with you and I also will be needing my space to be alone periodically or I’m going to become really bitchy and resentful and you won’t know why.”

 

But I was scared. So I got the massage, some much needed personal time and he went to the bookstore to wait for me until I was out.

 

Mindset tip: When faced with a relationship issue or situation, ask yourself, “How would the SuperWoman/SuperMan, most aligned and healthy version of myself handle this?” 

 

This question taps into your creative mind and instead of focusing on problems, your subconscious starts going to work for you, cranking out responses, offering up solutions and possibilities you may not have even seen or considered.

 

Some of them might be cracked out but others may be right on point and give you the extra boost you need to stop freaking out and just act from a grounded headspace.

 

And while I was in my car driving home, I asked this very question to myself.

 

‘How would the super amazing, healthy, aligned version of myself handle this?”

 

Nothing came at first.

 

Then a little defensive voice that said, “You got a massage. Why are you complaining?” (temporary solution)

 

And then, after a few more minutes of really dropping in here’s what came:

 

She would call him.

 

She would know that by sharing it with him he would love her even more.

 

She would have a conversation that would give her permission to have her needs met again and again without passive aggressiveness, manipulation or coercion.

 

She would say straight up with so much love, “When I was in the kitchen and I told you that if you needed space it was okay to tell me, I was really speaking to myself. I needed space away to be with me and regroup but I was scared and so I didn’t say anything. I love spending time with you but if we spend the whole day together, please know that there will be times when I need to step away and be quiet for a good hour. It’s nothing personal. It’s just what I need to come back in without going crazy.”

 

So…yea.

 

That’s what I proceeded to do.

 

And the conversation went way better than the one in my head.

 

He actually said, “That is amazing because I need that introvert time too!”

 

And it led to an even deeper discussion about avoiding assumptions and just being direct with each other.

 

A small breakthrough and while I’m by no means perfect at this process, I do know it gets easier the more you can pause and ask.

 

When you step into that space of possibility and ask that question of your Super Self, it turns out even better than you could imagine.

 

Because you dial into a higher frequency version of yourself than the scared, insecure part of you that is afraid she’s not enough/won’t be heard/seen, etc.

 

Q: What is a situation you’re facing right now in your life that feels challenging? Would you be willing to ask yourself what your Super You version would say/do/handle it? Share with me in the comments!

 

Is having an uncomfortable conversation part of the next step? Click here to check out my 4-step process to have an uncomfortable convo with anyone!

do you feel pressure to ‘perform’ ?

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Good morning!

I’m writing to you in the wee hours of the morning here in AZ and just got back from a walk with Bella under the First Quarter Moon. First quarter moons are a time when you can feel a surge to prove yourself or take on more but it’s actually the perfect time to just finish what you have started and focus on things that require a level of intensity and devotion.

With Valentines’ Day approaching next week, there can be so much pressure in our society to “perform”. For each other and yourself. To *have* a certain someone in your life and to make sure the world knows it, dang it! To have your love validated. Or to give yourself a big ole pity party because you feel like shit for not having a steady partner.

But what if instead of a performance, ripe with expectations, it was simply a reminder to acknowledge your primary soul mate relationship: between you and your Spirit/Universe/etc.

Everything truly is birthed from that primary connection. 

The way you let love in.

The way you trust that it’s already here.

The way you love another.

It’s all a giant cycle stemming from the relationship you have to trust yourself and trust that the Universe/your Spirit are in it for the long-haul, not some one-night stand or fair weather friendship.

Ahhhh….feels a bit different, doesn’t it? No pressure. Just acceptance.

<Did your shoulders drop too?!>

If you knew the Universe and you had an amazing connection, then every other relationship would be an outgrowth of that.

Some of the beliefs you may choose to accept could include things like:

:: The Universe loves me and supports me no matter what.
:: There is an abundance of anything I want in this lifetime, especially love.
:: It is safe for me to trust myself, and release the past.
:: I choose to find love wherever I go.
:: Each situation and each person that crosses my path is my spiritual teacher for the day.
What can I learn from them about myself?
and so much more.

That’s all for today.

Q: What would you believe if you knew that your relationship with yourself and the Universe was solid? 

Consider this question a moon musing…food for your Soul.

Happy first quarter and tons of love to you.

Diana

What to expect for this Super Blood Lunar Eclipse in Leo

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In this livestream video you will learn:
:: the themes of the Jan 31 Super Moon and how it affects you
:: a great ritual to release your fears and call in what you want
:: the two places in your life that are you are being asked to strengthen
:: an opportunity to get more guidance if you choose (special on email Super Moon readings!) until Feb 3.

Watch here:

 

ps: 

I’m so excited to be offering 10 spots for Super Moon Angel email readings and because this cycle is so unique, you ALSO get a personalized channeled mantra and energy blessing to help you maximize the energy of this Moon for your unique intentions and goals!

Just $35 for the first 10! Ask the Angels anything you’d like and I will share your channeled email message and your personalized mantra within 48 hours. ($75 value)

Because these aspects are most powerful from the start of the Full Moon (tomorrow, Jan 31-Feb 3, 2018), I am closing these readings when a) the ten slots are filled or b) 9am PST on Feb 3, whichever comes first!

Interested in grabbing one of the 10 spots?

1) Go here to book one: www.paypal.me/dianadorell/35 and in the PayPal message include your question for the Angels and the email address you want me to send your message to (if it’s different than the one you used to pay)

2) Look out for your email message within 48 hours.

3) There are no refunds for any reason.

4) The best questions are “What do the Angels want me to know about XYZ situation?” vs yes/no questions. 

Happy Full moon!

i used to be so terrified of this…can i share something personal with you?

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I used to be so terrified of my masculine energy, like if I unleashed it, it would consume everything in its path.  

What if I hurt people and I’d lose control of myself and my life?
You see, I had no real reference point for what a healthy masculine expression looked or felt like for so many years. 
So I got really really good at turning up the volume on my feminine, but in the process, i squashed and stuff down my masculine.
I was out of balance. Too much of anything can take us off our spiritual center I find.
So, today I’d like to share a story from 2013 with the intent that it inspires you to look at the places in yourself that maybe you’ve stuffed down too, places that want to come out and be seen and honored…even if you are scared.

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The Stallion by Diana Dorell
On the last day of a business retreat to a horse whispering ranch in California, we were each put in a ring with our “last horse.”
Our trainer mentioned that each horse had been carefully selected for each of us based on what had come up the past two days that we still needed to sort through in order to create breakthroughs in our businesses (and really all parts of our lives!)
I was really curious which horse I’d get and when she called my name I confidently walked into the center of the much larger ring.
My coach and mastermind sisters looked on from the side smiling.

“You’ve got this. No biggie, Diana!” I said to myself.
Then out of the corner of my eye, I see my horse.
Gorgeous, sandy-colored stallion with spots.
Pure alpha, I’m-the-king energy.
He was already bucking. With the trainer!

Fuuuuuckkk. My palms started to get sweaty.
She unleashed him into the ring and told me to try to get him to walk with me in a circle around the perimeter of the ring.
I could use any of the tools laying around or just my voice/energy as we had learned to do the days before.
Well….I tried clapping. Yelling. Staying calm.
I used the rope.
The hoop.
I even tried skipping alongside him and singing.
He snorted at me and shook his mane before he dashed off.
Then he’d randomly gallop defiantly in front of me, and each time he came towards me, I felt a shiver run down my spine and pure terror.
I kept looking over at the trainer and she just said…”Stay with what’s coming up. Try something different.”
He started galloping faster and faster around me and I started to feel like his puppet. Or his prey.
He came ramming towards the railing next to me and at one point, even lifted up his front hoofs like the picture of the unicorn on my Angel card that is called “Victory!” 
Who was I kidding? 
I had no freakin control over this horse, or my own emotions for that matter.
Uncontrollable tears of fear and frustration streamed down my face and I literally fell to my knees, covering my head with my hands and smelling the dirt.
I just wanted to be anywhere but where I was.
A few minutes later, it was over. The trainer came inside and gently guided me out and another lady came to get Mr. Crazy.

The last day and he had won.
I felt about two inches tall and avoided looking at my coach or my mastermind sisters. But I had some breakthroughs. And I’m still uncovering more, 5 years later!

The Breakthroughs:
“So, what came up for you Diana?” we debriefed. 
I got really quiet and said nothing for awhile. And then through a discussion we had between what I felt and what the trainer and my peeps saw…I had some ah-has.
  1. That stallion represented all the men in my life who I had given my power away to. 
  2. He also showed me all the times in my life started from being a little girl to this point where I didn’t feel safe to have a voice, didn’t feel safe to feel angry or to stand in my power because I felt ashamed, weird or like it wasn’t the ‘right’ thing to do.
  3. But really, the biggest thing that came from that day was that I was so terrified of my OWN power. You see, deep down, I saw how unstoppable I could be if I just let it out. Let myself be fully integrated. Tapped into my masculine assertive energy as much as I had my feminine, receptive, go-with-the-flow energy. I just had no clue how to do that consistently.
In my experience up to that point (and maybe you can relate to this), masculine energy was aggressive, manipulative, selfish and controlling. It got shit done, but at the expense of someone or something else.
But that is only the shadow. There are always two sides to the coin.
I’ve learned that the healthy masculine, the Light side, is protective, clear and decisive, directed and extremely aware of how their actions impact the whole, doing anything in its power to make sure those around them feel safe and cared for. It’s beautiful.
And the biggest and in my opinion, most important way you bring out healthy masculine energy is in choosing to take full responsibility for your life and directing and creating it! 
My homework that day was to go to Starbucks and order something without asking the barista what their favorite drink was or what they recommended!
It was such a simple task but really was my first step in reclaiming my Divine masculine!
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So, what’s the key to coming back into balance?
The first step is seeing where you have disowned yourself. 
Some big ones I’ve come to terms with over the past decade have included:
  • Dishonoring my body by eating unhealthy foods that packed on pounds, giving me the false illusion of being protected from XYZ
  • Feeling conflicted and ashamed of my sexuality (I am openly bi), feeling like I needed to hide or squeeze myself into one community or the other instead of just giving myself permission to be fabulous me!
  • Seeing my psychic gifts and extreme sensitivity as an empath (feeling everything all the time!) as something that makes me less than or weird vs awesome and something that has helped thousands of people!
Once you can identify those places where you’ve been stuffing yourself down, you free yourself from their grip, can start to formulate new patterns in your subconscious and you also free up space to allow your most integrated self to come through.

When that happens, that’s when magic really starts cooking!

Because you aren’t held back by fear.

It’s not that you’ll never be afraid or face challenges.

You’ll just stop fighting yourself in the process of facing them and things can more easily be resolved and also manifested!


Q: So what is one place where you have been hiding from yourself? What is one thing you’ve been avoiding looking at in yourself?
Name It. Write it Down. Free yourself.

That’s where your power is gorgeous goddess.

Thanks so much for being here with me.

Have a magical week!


PS: Did this post fire you up? Are you ready to make changes and are you tired of getting in your own way and letting BS excuses or blocks keep you from the life you know you deserve?

I have a handful of spots to work with privately this year and I’d love to be your spiritual mentor!
In this call we will:
– look at which of the 4 core blocks could be running the show holding you back from the life you really want
– we will discuss your goals and dreams and if we are a fit to work together!
– You are under no obligation to invest in services by booking this call but it does get the process started if you’d like to learn more.

Want to manifest better? This one tip is a game changer!

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Let’s jump right in.

Q: Do you ever feel scared to say what you really want to say?

So often we are afraid of hearing “no” that we water down what we want to ask for…or worse, we don’t even ask at all.
And then we feel frustrated when the Universe doesn’t deliver.
But the Universe delivers through people.
And if you’re bottling your true desire for fear of hearing a “no” or thoughts like..
“They’ll think I’m weird/silly/selfish/(fill in the blank here)…if I ask THAT”then you’re already capping your level of receiving before you’ve opened your mouth!
This is something I remind my private clients when they are about manifest big and some old moldy fear or doubt creeps in.
If you can remember that when you ask from a place of healthy detachment and confidence-your truth shines through and the other person then gets to hear it and respond from their full truth too. 
And when you leave space for their response, whether it’s yes or no, or “I have questions for you before I answer this,” you know it will unfold from the highest-frequency place.
That is a recipe for exceptional two-way communication that leaves the door open for magic and the unexpected. 
Q: So, what’s something important want to ask someone this week?
Or even to yourself?
Are you willing to create space for a yes, a no, or whatever the response is, trusting the the Universe is taking care of you, but you need to take the first step and speak your truth?
If so and you want to really ramp up the energy this week, here’s your challenge: Put your hand on your heart and say “I am willing to make a bold request this week and trust that I am fully supported!”
The more you practice, the easier it gets.
And so it is.
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