this first step to stepping into your brilliance is…

With the holidays upon us, you may be bombarded with invitations to gatherings, anxiety around hosting family from out of town or the opposite, maybe feeling lonely or conflicted about not having people around or familiar surroundings.

No matter where you find yourself as we wind down November, trust that you will get through it!

There may be things in your life that you wish were different. You may have heard yourself saying things like…

I should be married by now.

I should have more money in the bank.

I should be or have <fill in the blank>. What’s wrong with me? Why do other people have that and I don’t?

The key to move through these difficult thoughts and the emotions that accompany them is not, contrary to popular opinion….gratitude.

It’s something else.

It’s acceptance.

Accepting your reality just as it is right now. Not trying to escape it or live in the past. Or a future based on your fears.

I went to the Center for Spiritual Living this Sunday with my partner and the story shared was about the Reverend attending this workshop on grief and going over to this woman’s home for lunch afterwards. She had set three placemats and he was confused-who was this mysterious third guest?

She opened up to him and shared that it was for her late husband.

She said, “I even keep his dry cleaning on the same hook over there.”

And sure enough, he saw a 3 piece navy blue suit.

Well, at that moment he felt so stupid for asking or for not being more compassionate about this! After all, they had both just come from a workshop about grief!

They had a nice meal and the next day, he visited the friend who had led the workshop.

She said, “You know….she’s been coming to this workshop each time I offered it. It’s actually been 10 years since he passed..”

And his eyes got wide as he took this in. 10 years?

He went on to share with us the difference between allowing yourself to move through the stages of grief and clinging to it, draping ourselves in it because it’s too scary to consider that we aren’t the same person we were and that the event happened a long time ago.

While not the same scenario, this lesson relates to our thoughts that we hold close and the stories we tell ourselves.

Yes, maybe you aren’t married and you feel upset. 

Yes, maybe when you look at your bank account, it’s not what you want it to be.

Yes, that all may be true. But does it change that you are whole and complete and beautiful just as you are in this very moment? That this is a temporary experience that you will emerge from?

Your power comes from acceptance about where you are and reminding yourself WHO  you really are-a Divine Being with infinite potential.

So back to you, Q: Where could you benefit from accepting something in your life and coming back to the present?  Are you willing to increase your compassion for yourself and stay open to what your intuition wants to share with you around it?

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$150,000 in 3 min…Supermoon miracles+ a challenge for you!

Happy Tuesday!

Have you seen the Super moon in Taurus? I’ve been catching gorgeous pictures from my friends in Arizona because in Portland, we got so much rain, I couldn’t see it!

Because it’s in Taurus, you may be seeing themes in your life such as:

  • Material: Wanting more financial prosperity, stability, better management of your resources
  • Physical: Emphasis on sensuality, sexuality/sex, beauty (inner and outer)
  • Mental/Emotional: Holding your own, commitment in partnerships, taking a stand for something…and sticking to it

The air is ripe for miracles and I wanted to share one with you today that I saw on my Facebook feed.

One of my friends was at a workshop in NYC this morning where Bob Proctor was one of the speakers.

A woman stood up and basically declared that she needed $150,000 to help fund her non profit charitable organization for children.

She went balls out and asked Proctor directly for his support in front of the entire crowd!

The result?

He said, “If 14 of you listening to this will donate $10k, I will add in my own $10k. What are you waiting for people?”

Now, we have been conditioned to believe that raising $150k might take a long time….or that she would have had to create a super thought out plan and hound people for pennies.

This all transpired in three minutes.

The Universe has no limits to the magic we can create with it. The only restrictions are the ones in our minds and in our belief system.

So when you hear yourself saying stuff like…”I really want to do this but I just don’t think I have enough time/resources/energy…” or “I’ve always wanted to do XYZ but I’m not qualified enough…it would take too much work…I’m too old/not old enough/not (fill in the blank).

I’m calling B.S right now 🙂

Check yourself. Because when your desire is strong enough, those excuses just don’t hold up.

You will find yourself willing to do things outside your comfort zone.

And it doesn’t have to take forever and a day for you to change something in your life.

Unless you believe it does.

Are you up for a challenge?

When I sat outside watching the rain last night pour down, I lit a candle and took out my journal and got quiet. I asked, “What feels like fun?” (tapping into desire)

And what came out was to offer a free challenge as we round the end of 2016 starting this Sunday Nov 20 called “Live Like A Goddess!” A 3-WEEK CHALLENGE TO SHED YOUR OLD SKIN + FEEL HAPPY, ADORED AND FREE!

I ran this twice this year and each time I was floored by the insights and internal stretches the women in there made in the short 3 weeks.

Magic and miracles happen everyday.

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Love,

Diana

my favorite prayer to trust when you’re in transition

Right now you may be aware that changes are happening, perhaps within you or outside of you.

If you’re at all in tune with your intuition (which if you are reading this,  you are), you may have experienced in the past few weeks any of the following:

  • Strange dreams, usually quite intense even if you don’t remember them
  • A death/re-birth, maybe literally someone passed in your life or someone close to you…or you feel like a part of you has died
  • Emotional highs!! And emotional lows.
  • A burst of creative energy, followed by confusion or stuck-age to act fully on it

Any of these ring a bell?

Whenever you’re in the middle of a soul up-level or transition of any kind, it’s so important to take extra good care of yourself.

And it’s also really easy to go into your head, freak out and forget that you are always supported.

You have everything available to you when you need it. You are loved right now, just as you are, even when things are confusing or crazy in your life.

Here is my favorite prayer you can say or write when you’re in a period of transition or confusion and you just need to turn it over to something bigger than yourself.

I’ve used it when I was confused about a relationship I was in, worried about whether I was making the ‘wrong’ move in my business and during those periods when life simply tests us to stand in faith when it would be infinitely easier to stand for fear.

“Dear Spirit, I (insert your name) lovingly give you (this situation, problem, challenge, etc) to take off my shoulders.

Give me the courage to be still when it’s time to be still and to take inspired right action when it is time for me to do so.

I now give myself permission to be free and I trust that all is happening in perfect and Divine time.

I now give myself permission to stop grasping and be at peace now knowing a peaceful solution is already happening. Thank you. And so it is!”

As with all mantras, affirmation and prayer, the emotion and feeling behind the words are more important than just saying them. Visualize that energy releasing from your body as you say it. Cut off all distractions as you say it. Give yourself that gift of full power and presence as you turn it over to Spirit.

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the best love and life advice I ever got (true story)

Have you ever been on a date or had a big decision or presentation at work to make and you literally can’t stop your brain from totally spinning out of control like a hamster on a wheel on steroids?

That was me.

I’d like to share a true story with you with the intent that it helps you love and trust yourself more. It’s a story about business but really it’s about loving yourself full out and falling in love with the real you. Would that be ok?

It was Circa 2012.

I remember sitting in my apartment, crying and stressed out because I didn’t know what to call myself.

I was on the phone with my astrologer and halfway through my rant about how I didn’t know if I was on the right track in my business, in my life, in my crazy dating life that inspired The Dating Mirror, he shut me up in his very classy, British way.

And told me some of the hands-down best advice I’ve ever received in my entire life.

Let me take you back

But before I spill the beans, to fully appreciate his advice, here’s a little background on where it came from:

I was at a place in my business where everything was expanding. Like faster than I could imagine and I was constantly putting pressure on myself to label myself for the masses.

For those of you who have been following me for awhile, you’ve seen me go through several incarnations and brand names.

I started out doing Angel readings on the streets of San Francisco (no joke!), became a Reiki Master Teacher and got a radio and TV gig doing readings for people live on air for four years. I was unofficially labeled The Next Doreen Virtue.

Then years ago at a mastermind, a mentor came up with the name, The CEO Psychic, for my business. It was true. A lot of my clients are CEO’s and big shots in their industries. I shared the same stage as Deepak Chopra and went on with that moniker and brand and my career shot way up.

And shortly after that, because a lot of my clients really wanted my help with their relationships, family and self-confidence (even though they would come to me initially for business intuition advice and cleverly sneak it in at the end!) Five Star Love Life came about. But throughout each brand evolution, I realized something huge.

The Trouble with Labels

All were fabulous monikers and names to be associated with. Clever. Clear. Sexy.

The trouble was, I found that each time I tried to label myself, I started to feel weird.

I went way more into my head than was helpful.

I started trying to fit myself into a neat little box that came with owning a particular “name” and it brought up a lot of pressure, anxiety and self doubt.

  • I felt scattered and my life really mirrored that.
  • I had success but I was all over the place, literally.

I think I moved four times between 2011-2013.

  • My weight was up and down.
  • I had really great men in my life who I (or they) for one reason or another just couldn’t commit to.

And I really had to work hard to find my center. Because something felt well, off, but I couldn’t quite pinpoint it. I needed help.

So I booked a session with my astrologer.

And here is what he said:

“Stop thinking so much. You’re so much better when you don’t think.”

He knew that going into my head first wasn’t my Zone of Genius. It was my Zone of Chaos. The breakthroughs came when I sank into the flow of the moment and then made decisions from my gut. And then and only then, assessed with the analytical mind. When I reversed the order, I just diluted my own power.

So often, especially in our relationships, we over think things.

We make lists when we should just enjoy be-ing.

And when we are too in our head, we tend to switch off our hearts and switch on the judgement.

And the criticism. And the pressure.

Especially self-inflicted pressure. And then we aren’t truly engaging with the other person anymore. Or our life. And we start to sabotage….and we wonder why our life isn’t shaping up the way we want

Change can bring you back to yourself

I knew something had to change and it could only come from within me. So I made a commitment to stop trying to label myself and instead focused on how I could serve the world with my message: to help people trust and love themselves in a soulful way. 

Once the pressure of having to “find and fit a label” was consciously lifted off, I found that every area of my life improved.

  • I lost weight and had more energy for the things I loved.
  • I became way better at managing my money and investing in things I value vs things I think I should have.
  • And I attracted my current partner who truly accepts and loves me for who I am.

But none of that could have happened as quickly as it did if I hadn’t

  1. Consciously taken a step back to look at where I was choosing to place my energy (into obsessively over thinking and measuring every choice against how it fit into a stupid box vs. just being in the moment.)
  2. Seeing the blessings each incarnation brought me (gratitude and grace) and
  3. Made the choice to be present without worrying so much about what other people (and I) thought of me

It all begins with a simple choice to do things differently.

So, now over to you.

Q: Where do you need to stop overthinking things in your life?

Q: Where could you benefit from relaxing into the here and now?

Q: What could be possible when you do this?

Share with me in the comments below!

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3 steps to being an irresistable love magnet (it works for Oprah!)

Do you know one of those people who always seem to just attract positive attention wherever they go?

You may say to yourself, “They are so lucky! What do they have that I don’t?”

I call these people love magnets.

You see love is most magnetic force and these people are vibrating at such a high manifesting frequency not because of some mystical Knighting by the Universe.

They have chosen specific ways of Be-ing that draws people and love, money, miracles, etc in.

Not surprisingly the three love magnet behaviors I’m about to share with you are also the key behaviors demonstrated of some of the world’s most successful and fulfilled people (including the Divine Ms. O!)

And the best part is, you can learn them and incorporate them into your everyday life right now.

Here are the top 3:

1.  Keep your commitments

One of the marks of a truly lasting relationship is trust and trust comes from consistency.

We feel safer and more likely to open up and get emotionally intimate with someone who does that they say they will…when they say they will. Too often in dating, one person really wants to see the other and will attempt to convince the other person to change their plans. This is innocent enough and hey, it feels great to be wanted and missed. But the woman who says, “Hey, I love that you want to spend more time with me. I miss you too. However I’m unavailable tonight because I have a prior commitment” is the woman he wants. The one he’ll bend his plans for. The one that stands out above all the rest.  Even if there is temporary disappointment at not getting instant gratification the woman who keeps her commitments is extremely attractive. Self respect is sexy. Keep your commitments, even if that commitment is to wash your hair and do your overflowing pile of laundry.

2.  Be present with what’s in front of you

We’ve all been there. You’re in the middle of writing a really important email and suddenly your cell phone chimes that you got a new Facebook notification. You can’t resist, so you vow to quickly check your phone and as soon as you grab your phone, a friend sends you a personal message with a question. Before you know it, you’ve completely lost your train of thought for the important email and end up staring at a blank screen, feeling frustrated and annoyed (but quickly try to type back a reply on Facebook). A restless, easily distracted mind is not attractive. It’s at the mercy of everything and everyone around it. And when it comes to relationships, the more you can zero in on the conversation you’re having or the one task that’s at hand, the calmer your mind is, the more likely you are to hear your intuition and the more likely you are to actually tune into the subtle messages it gives you. You get closer to what you want, instead of being constantly pulled away from the power of the moment. And the person you are with feels like they are the most important thing in your world. Because they are. Making another feel heard and important is sexy. Be present.

3.  Know your deal breakers…and honor them.

There is a story I read somewhere about a Japanese business who made all his major business partnership decisions based on how well his lunch digested. If the meal went down smooth, he was in. If it didn’t go down well, the deal didn’t go down either.

Now, in relationships, it may not work as black and white as that, but in my book, The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again, there is a whole chapter on the importance of identifying your dealbreakers, the non-negotiable things that your Soul really needs to be able to relax and show up 100% in your relationships. These are things like knowing how you feel about having children, how important it is that the other person have the same spiritual beliefs as you, mindset on health and more. A love magnet is someone who has already done the legwork on identifying these and she makes decisions based on whether something aligns or misaligns to that list. And she’s comfortable saying no a lot because she knows that when she honors her dealbreakers, she makes choices that honor her most elevated, magnetic self. And when she honors herself, everybody around her benefits and gets the best of what she has to offer. Boundaries are sexy. Clarity is key. Know your deal breakers.

This week’s soul question: Which of the three love magnet behaviors will you commit to practice this week? Why did you choose that particular one? Tell me in the comments below!

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