Sometimes All You Need is a Break in the Pattern

Happy Tuesday! 

Before we dive into this week’s offering…I’d like to check in. 

How are you feeling post eclipse and 11:11 vibes? Did you notice anything coming up or weird dreams?

<We had an amazing turnout for the 11:11 Activation Night and the connection, downloads and energy were super powerful! We are still in the 11:11 energy corridor for about 24-48 more hours-if you’ve been wanting to get more clarity, you can still get the 11:11 Activation Night messages and Meditation journey, along with the Deep Journaling and Ritual ideas that you can use for any New or Full Moon. Go here (scroll down once you click and you can purchase Part 1-recording).>

This week’s question from the community: 

Q: I really want to start dating again, but every time I get to the point of possibly having a date, I come up with all kinds of excuses why this guy isn’t up to par and just sabotage it before it begins. I feel so tired after work and I don’t want to engage in a date so I default to watching TV and cancelling. I know it’s not getting me closer to being in a relationship but I can’t seem to stop this. What is wrong with me? What can I do to stop getting in my own way? Help! 

A: Thank you for reaching out! This is a very common scenario, and there are a few layers to unpack here. But the first thing I’ll say is there is nothing wrong with you. When I read the energy behind your question, the word ‘tired’ pops out. When we are tired (mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually), anything that our subconscious perceives is going to require MORE energy can be seen as a threat. An energy depletion. So it’s natural that if you are tired, having to be “on” with someone you aren’t comfortable with seems unnecessary. It’s self-protection but at the core of your question may be a combination of:

1. Energetic Management: 
   • Find out what small tweaks you may be willing to make to your schedule so that you are energised by what you’re doing vs depleting at the end of the day. This will make it easier to have the bandwidth to actually discern whether a particular date is in fact your intuition telling you, Don’t bother. Or…just a not today because I’m exhausted but I’d meet this guy for a date tomorrow-kinda scenario. 
2. Let Someone Else Play Bad Cop: 
   • To break the pattern requires doing different things. If it helps, have a friend on call the day you know you have a date. You can instruct them to call or text you before to remind you to check in with yourself and to get out of your house in service to your bigger why-which is to be in a relationship! Even if it turns out that you aren’t attracted to the guy or vice versa, you never know who that person knows and they may introduce you to your future husband. But you’ll never know if you don’t leave the couch. 

The more you can call back your energy and re-assess what is actually draining you, and the more open you are to receiving support, the easier it will be to silence that self-protective, well meaning saboteur and get out there to meet your Mr. Right. 

Q: If you’re reading this and you’ve been through something similar, what have you found helped you? What advice would you give the woman above? Share your comments on the blog and as always, know that you are beautiful, worthy and deserving of amazing love NOW! 

Have a great week!