I was speaking with a good friend the other day about the progression of being single, to dating again, to being in a relationship, getting engaged/making a commitment and one of the things I feel like no one really talks about is the death of your single self.
That transition from being with yourself only… to being with yourself and another person.
From complete and total independence…to interdependence.
There is a mourning that may need to happen in that transition that I feel gets ignored.
A death of one identity as the new one takes shape and yo begin to navigate yourself in it, someone else!
And this isn’t just with your ‘relationship’ status.
It could be with your job.
Or your place of residence.
It seems everyone I speak with these days is gong through some kind of death/rebirth!
It’s beautiful, it can feel messy and it will be so much more impactful if you allow yourself all the feelings that arise when going from one stage to the next.
As you’ve probably guessed by now, I don’t necessarily have a neat and tidy 5-steps to mourn your single self post for you today.
Today is about simply opening up the conversation with yourself and exploring:
- Where do you feel like you are transitioning in your life?
- What feelings arise when you imagine releasing one identity to birth another?
- What comes up for you around your current relationships and what do you fear you will lose if you merge deeper with another?
Deep questions, yes!
I’m curious to see who actually pulls out the journal-if you are one of the brave ones, hit reply nd let me know one gem that comes up for you!
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